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Was it meant to be?
Reading another thread got me thinking about my own experience with my ill great grandmother and my DD1.
Nan had been sick for quite some time with parkinsons, she had been in a nursing home for over 5yrs but we were very close and i visited often.
When she first went into hospital and homes she joked that she would not leave me until i was happy (just been through a break-up), when i found my DP i didn't tell her for a while and i'm not sure why i think i was worried that would be my happiness and she would leave me.
Nan often asked if DP and i were engaged yet or joke around asking if my weight gain was natural.. i often told her no i'm not PG if that is what your hinting at.
on the 12.2.08 i found out i was PG, it was the 20yr anniversary of my brothers death, we told everyone at 12wks and my nan was so excited, she kept asking what names we had picked and if we were going to find out the sex of bubs.
We had decided we weren't going to but knew of a boys name, we told her we were using my great grandfathers (her husbands) name as a middle name.
She jokingly hinted and asked what we would use for a girl? we had NO IDEA!
It came to our 20wk scan and a flip of a coin and spur of the minute decision saw us asking what our little bundle was going to be, it's a GIRL!
We hadn't even looked at names, not 1 so i started looking around and asking my nan (great grandmothers daughter) about nans middle names, she has 4 and only 1 had not been used.. Lillian or Lillias (dif fam members say dif things???).
All of a sudden i knew, AVA LILLY, the one and only name we mentioned and we picked it straight away.
Nan was getting worse and i made the decision to call her and tell her we had decided on a name, she was high on morphine and hardly knew who i was but i got the message to her and it was a load off my chest... until..............
3 days later she passed!
My gorgeous Ava Lilly was born at home, breach on the bathroom floor and i was by myself, or was I?
I was so calm and despite all the possible things that could have gone wrong my baby girl came without an issue, i had a feeling nan was there and i couldn't shake it.
After we came home i had some issues with my gall bladder and ended up having to take panadeine forte, one night i had the pains, got up and took the PF and went back to bed, i had a dream that started the same as when i had just taken the PF and i could hear DD talking in her basinette but when i looked no-one was there, but then i looked again and my nan was standing over her and talking to her... i woke from my dream and DD was talking at 3am in the morn to herself!
I get chills whenever i think about it but was it meant to be? Was nan MEANT to pass once she knew i was happy and using her name, and is she my gorgeous Ava's guardian angel, i have often dreamt nan is watching over her or talking to her and wake to hear DD chatting away to herself!
Sorry this is so long, had to get it out otherwise i would not have slept.
Thanks for reading.
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I'm sure your Nan is watching over both you and your DD. It's strange that they come to us in dreams mostly as we would not be as receptive to it in an awake state. It's wonderful that you can still see your Nan like this and you have a chance to thank her for watching over the two of you. Some people say we can choose to go when we are ready, so maybe your Nan found she was ready once she knew that you were happy. It's a great connection to have with her.
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yes i believe it was ment to be...
and i also believe ur nan helped u thru the birth!
it might sound silly to other people but i truly dont have any doubts in my mind that she was with you and is also ur daughters gaurdian angel..
its an amazing and special thing!
also it was a lovely and heart warming story to read and thank you for sharing!!!
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Thank you, i am fairly receptive to seeing ppl, my brother and my pop have come to me before but only ever the once each.
My nan is a constant and she is always with or watching over my DD, it gives me a lot of comfort to know she is there for her.
I have items i was given by nan that will be given to DD, opal earrings and strangely enough DD's birth stone is an opal!
All these tiny things just make me wonder if she had to leave for my DD to be here safely!
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i think its fantastic that your keeping her alive in your thoughts with all the trinkets etc!
and as sad as it sounds maybe she did need to go for ur DD to arrive safetly
i was a very sick baby and my heart stopped beating 3 times by the time i was 5 weeks old and the doctors told my parents that i wasnt going to live and treat every day as it was my last. my aunty died in a car accident a short time after and my mother believes theres some kind of connection whether she had to go to pass her soul to me or she went and was my gaurdian angel who got me through my sickness. either way i feel blessed and i dont doubt your daughter will to when she understands her/your nans story
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nell2010 that gave me shivers... you were truly blessed and it really is amazing the connections we have with people.
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geez ZF. that really gave me shivers.
I too believe that loved ones who have passed on are around those who love them all the time.
xxoo
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ZF - you've mentioned a number of times and older lady being with you - you've always felt the lady was friendly - maybe that's your great nan watching out for you.
i believe that there is someone watching over DD - i can't work out who exactly, but i think it's DH's mum. it's a comforting presence - and when DH is home it shifts as if stepping back because it knows we're protected by him - but when he's not home, there is definitely something. DD wakes up happy and talks her little head off to someone. she watches something that doesn't seem to be there - and it's always in the same places.
take comfort in knowing you have a "friendly" taking care of you. and if it was your great nan's "destiny" to pass and to help you bring A into the world, then she has done a damn fine job!
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I honestly don't think the 'friendly' here is nan i get a different vibe but i do know na is watching over us
Aww that is gorgeous, it's an amazing feeling knowing someone is watching over us isn't it.i believe that there is someone watching over DD - i can't work out who exactly, but i think it's DH's mum. it's a comforting presence - and when DH is home it shifts as if stepping back because it knows we're protected by him - but when he's not home, there is definitely something. DD wakes up happy and talks her little head off to someone. she watches something that doesn't seem to be there - and it's always in the same places.
Yes yes she has, not sure she would have handled it so well IRL... loltake comfort in knowing you have a "friendly" taking care of you. and if it was your great nan's "destiny" to pass and to help you bring A into the world, then she has done a damn fine job!
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it is a nice feeling knowing someone is watching her. i know how close DH and his mum were - and i think she has been watching out for him for a while and now that she knows he and i watch out for each other, she watches over DD
i am pretty sure she was with him when he got sick just before we met - he got injured at work and his blood went septic. had to have major surgery and stuff - he said he was really unwell but something just kept him going to get to the hospital. he had no contact with anyone, it was like he was being pushed to go there...
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