thread: When was the first time...

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    When was the first time...

    DH and I were talking about getting Powderfinger tickets but the only place we can go is Bendigo due to the tickets selling out everywhere else. He suggested making a weekend of it, but I'm not sure.

    DD is 13 months old and I've never left her overnight before. I was wondering when anyone did for the first time. I'm a SAHM, so me being without her for even a little while is a bit weird!

    How old was your LO when you left them overnight with someone? How did they go?

    Cheers!

    Corelly x

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    I had to leave DD1 at 5mths as i ended up having surgery for gallstones, she was with her dad but it felt like leaving her with a stranger , i knew he was more than capable but it felt horrible, i also left ehr at about 6mths for more surgery (6 nights in hosp) and for 2 nights when i went to QLD in March... all with her dad.

    Otherwise TONIGHT is actually the first time she has stayed somewhere overnight without me or her dad, she is at her Nannas so i can go do some cleaning at the new house, she didn't even care when i left.. kissed myself and DD2 goodbye and said c-ya... cheeky little monkey, my MIL text me to say she's fast asleep.. no tears... which almost makes me sad to be honest

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    I'm really sure they are coming here to Ballarat too

    ... Silverchair came here a couple of years ago (they even tried to get Pink last year)

    *** On your question, my sister gave me great advice once she said " they need to learn to survive without us Mummy's at some point and believe they do just fine, better then you realise " !!!

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    cheeky little monkey, my MIL text me to say she's fast asleep.. no tears... which almost makes me sad to be honest
    Haha ZF! Catch 22 isn't it!! We don't want them to miss us, but we want to be missed!!

    Hope the move goes well

    Corelly x

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    Smiles 4U - Yeah, they had Ballarat listed, but as a sold out show

    Corelly x

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    Smiles 4U - Yeah, they had Ballarat listed, but as a sold out show

    Corelly x
    ah why did i know you were gonna say that, lol

    ... i reckon go make a weekend out of it in Bendigo, it's a pretty town and don't forget you can go for drives to other towns nearby for something to do too, i love discovering little country towns & the drive to get there ... Beechworth Bakery at Bendigo is my fav, i prefer the set up there to the others

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    I left DS for the first time when he was quiet young but we lived with mum at the time so it wasnt a biggie
    I left DD1 at about 6months
    I left DD2 at 8weeks
    but always with my mum who is in my opinion as close to me as it gets

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    I left DD1 at umm 18months
    and I have not left DD2 yet and she is 9 months

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    DS1 was 18 months and 4 days when I went to hospital to have DS2 my mum was here with him all day and at night DH was home anyway but don't know when I will be able to let him go away on his own.

    DS2 is only 3 and 1/2 months old.

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    DS was 4yrs and 3 months
    DD is almost 3 and still hasnt

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    There's no 'right or wrong' time IMO... it's whatever you & your LO are comfortable with.

    I left my older three kids with my mum quite early, we lived with her or near her & they saw a lot of her so it wasn't a big deal.
    DD2 is 9 months old now & I haven't left her overnight yet, nor do I want to any time soon - in fact DD1 has offered to have her in her room overnight & I can't even bring myself to that

    I think it's a nice idea that your DH has had & probably great for you as a couple, but won't be much fun if you are worrying about how your DD is going or pining for her.
    Can you do a dry run first? Maybe work up to it slowly...I don't know if you already have or not but leaving her with someone at home while you go out to dinner might be a way of seeing how she will settle for someone else (and at least you are close by if needed).

    And if you just don't want to & don't feel comfortable yet, then don't

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    Fleur has said it beautifully...

    I left DS with my mum and dad when he was 15 months old, I dropped him off there at 5pm and they brought him back at 11am, was the first sleep in I had had in all that time!!
    I expressed 2 bottles for him, as he still feeds occasionally over night but, mum said he only time he cried was when she took her mobile off him, he woke at 4am and she tried to give him a bottle, he threw it away and drank some water and went back to sleep! he doesnt do that for me!
    so he was fine...

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    Thanks Corelly, no freaked out phone calls or anything over night so Ava must be doing well, bet the little monkey slept in for nanna aswell.. while i was at home sleeping on the couch cos her sister was being a PITA...

    I think a trial run is a good idea but my mum also said on FB last night that A will be fine as she is with someone she knows and loves.... i guess if they are comfortable with the person they forget you in 5min... in my case Ava didn't care, playing with Nanna is fun so C-YA MUM!

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    I am leaving DD with my niece overnight in about 3 weeks. That will be the first time and she will be 21 months old

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    hmmm my DS was 2 weeks old i attended a deb ball and i couldnt take him with me actually technically i left him at like 4 days old with DH when i went to pick my sister up from bendigo it felt horrible he was asleep the whole time though

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    Im not even close to letting DD have a night away yet. Shes 18.5 months old. But I cant handle giving her to someone during the day, let alone the night, hahahahaha so maybe its just me?

    ps.. I would miss her more than she would miss me lol

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    Completely agree with all; when you feel it's ok then it's ok.

    I left DS with my mum overnight for first time when he was 6 or 7 weeks old - i won a night at the Hyatt and as we were unable to BF anyone could bottle him - but as someone else said; i think my mum is the closest thing to me he could get. As much as i love a break the overnight stays make me realise how connected I am to him and I usually run to meet him when separated (espec overnight) - he however is completely unfazed. LOL

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    Thanks for all the replies everyone. It's a real mixture isn't it? I don't think I'm ready yet. I've left her in my mum's care for a few times when DH have gone out for dinner and DD has been absolutely fine, she loves mum heaps. But an overnighter? It'll have to wait

    Corelly x