trying to stay in labour whilst attention seeking mum is here grrrr

**bubno.3** · October 18th, 2010, 10:18 AM

Im 38 wks and few days now and the last few days i have had a small bloody show and smal muck on pad.... plus some ripper contractions that are up through my vagina/cervix then down from the top of bump to the bottom.. This morning they didnt tickle at all and i was quite concerned as at a time they were coming thick and fast.... this is my 3rd child but it will be the most natural one (all the others were medically induced).

However i have my mum here to supposably help me with my 28 mth old BUT she isnt helping at all and ****ting me to tears actually ....she had a fight with me yesterday and i lost all the cx i was in i was furious.... but i have decided it is her problem not mine and whammo they came back with vengence at 7 30 am WOOHOO !!!

**~ Zarava Flutterby ~** · October 18th, 2010, 10:22 AM

hun, hope bubs makes an appearance soon for you.
My mum came to 'help' before DD2 was born.. ahh what a headache!

**bubno.3** · October 18th, 2010, 10:26 AM

she is a pain in the bum

Im over going in and out of labour ... as when it starts it is full on and im tears and im thinking this is it.

Just before mu decided to wash a burnt pot ... after she said out loud i have finally got the pot clean i just ignored her then i heard her say 'gee thanks mum thanks for doing that that was really helpfull' wtf !

**miskilla** · October 18th, 2010, 10:40 AM

Sorry to hear your mum is being a pain hun, it really isn't fair, this is meant to be your time! You think she would be more considerate and helpful.

Try to ignore it as much as you can and good luck with the contractions! Hopefully it leads to something happening soon

**bubno.3** · October 18th, 2010, 10:46 AM

thanks girls and yes im trying

she is asking me stupid questions that she knows the answers too ?
she told me off for not having my bags packed the other day when i was holding a wall wtf!!
She told me i was a stupid women last night at 7 30pm when i didnt agree with her to store my new baby clothes in the laundry cupboard..... it took me all night to decide it is her problem not mine and whammo cx came on with vengence this morning in bed !!
Unbelievable hey?

***Sparklez*** · October 18th, 2010, 10:51 AM

oh babe **BIG HUGS*** i hope u are feeling better and dont let ur mum put a downer on u this is ur day and time and she should back off a little and realise that u need her support not her suggestions and opinions... my mums the same lol dw ur not alone... i just ignore them and tell her to grow up when ive had enuf or say if u dont like it leave...
GL i hope ur bubs makes it into this world sooner than later and u enjoy it all... xox

**black_rose** · October 18th, 2010, 11:08 AM

Go for a walk and leave her to it, that way she can make the comments to herself, and hopefully your labour will stick.

**peanutter** · October 18th, 2010, 11:20 AM

ditto to taking a walk - fresh air and the movement will help, as will being away from her! In the driveways or yards of course, given the labour ...

I hope she snaps out of it, and reaslises this is your time, and helping in the way you want to be helped is the way to go!!

**bubno.3** · October 18th, 2010, 02:33 PM

yes now after a 'talk' she had with my husband she came to me and asked what i wanted .... i again was in pain leaning on the back fence (that looks over the river/lake) and i blurted out in tears ... i want you to realise i dont necessarily need you to do anything except be a mum BUT that doesnt mean i want to have a life changing discussions with you. I went on and told her i need to stay within my self to stay in labour as this baby wants out BUT with all the stupid and silly questions i have been asked and then you get ****ty because im not answering and therefore whammo contractions end and im 5 steps back. I told her i want you here to just be here i dont want to worry about TAKING the f....n rubbish out (yes she told me to take the rubbish out to the bin)or how much milk we have or havent or any other grocery topic, i dont want to discuss where my new bubs clothes go and i dont appreciate you getting ****ting with me because i havent agreed with you . This is my baby my labour my house and my household ... i would really appreciate if you could stop the nonsense and let me be! She kept saying well would u like me to go home ? I didnt answer her at all as i know she wanted me to say yes mum go home ... and if i did do that again i would be the worst daughter in the world .

WTF why i have to say all that at all is beyond me ....

Now she is a changed women .... for now

**AwesomeFoursome** · October 18th, 2010, 04:23 PM

I hope she behaves better now. And your baby comes really soon.

**trishalishous** · October 18th, 2010, 05:44 PM

Go for a walk and leave her to it, that way she can make the comments to herself, and hopefully your labour will stick.

I agree! Have a break for a bit!

**bubno.3** · October 18th, 2010, 05:55 PM

Thanks girls you are just want i need to here

I cant believe that one minute the body can be in serious contraction mode and the next (due to stress) it absolutely stops !

Im have a few again now and as im in my room alone lets hope

As now i would actually like ti go into labour naturally as i have never done that before
(always been induced) xx

**Shanti** · October 18th, 2010, 05:57 PM

Wishing you all the best of luck with your labour...... hope your Mum decides to leave you alone at this important time when you need rest and to feel supported!!

You can do it!