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Find It Difficult To Get Out Of The House
After I had DD1, I had health issues that made it painful for me to walk so I spent a lot of the first year in the house.
Then when I got pregnant with DD2, I literally couldn't walk more than 50 metres so I was housebound AGAIN.
Now I'm much better but I still find it difficult to get out of the damn house because I don't seem to be able to walk out that door if there's a bench to clean, dishwasher to load, DD2 is asleep etc. etc. I think I've been so used to being stuck in the house that it's become normal to stay in even though I love being out and about.
I know the solution - I should just put the housework on hold and get out that door.
Am I the only one who finds it hard?
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I find sometimes if it's been a while since I've left the house, the thought panics me and I'll find excuses not to leave. As you say, the only thing that works is making a date with a friend who won't let me break it, or DH forcing me out. I'm not sure if that's where you're going, but you're not alone
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I find it hard because nothing seems easy when I take the girls out by myself one or the other is always tired or hungry or grumpy. But Im finding the more I go out with them the better and easier it is.
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I hear you Fiona. I put the house work on hold all the time (read: not much gets done anyway LOL) its the timing of sleeps with DS & DD that always stuffs me up. I'll get all fired up and plan where I need to go & what I need to do, then DS will pick a choice time to want his snooze, and I'm not waking him just to go out.
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I know the feeling - sometimes it is all just too difficult to manage, so I stay home where it doesn't matter! lol
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same!
I'm always looking for excuses not to go out. There are times when I'm really looking forward to certain things & plan it really well then when it comes to the crunch, I just can't be bothered going!
I'm starting to notice though that I'm hanging around the house in my jimjams all day until just before Dh is due home. It's actually been getting me down lately so I'm going to try to push myself to get out more & hopefully it will get easier the more often I do it. only to places with plenty of 'stopping points' though cause I can't walk too far without a break either.
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i'm with you on that one. i have found it much harder to get myself out of the door this time around. with DD1 i was outta there like there was no tomorrow. doing this, doing that etc etc. but this time i find myself really reluctant. i am being lazy as it is just easier to be at home...but gosh darn it it is boring! i literally have to FORCE myself to get out these days. even if just to post a letter in the post box lol. that said, if my neighbour is home i am over there in a flash, but again that takes little effort...just sitting on a different couch with a different blend of tea. TBH this is really part of my decision to call this baby my last; i just dont think i will have the right amount of energy for a third lol. sloth-ville here i come!
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i'm the opposite, i hate staying at home, cause i either watch the house get trashed, or i get bored ****less, or i feel bad if i'm not being productive. so i head out all the time.
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I feel like if I'm home all day, DH comes home and looks around like "what have you been doing all day?!" but if I go out, I have an excuse lol!
I know he doesn't really think that... He says if he get home to happy wife, happy kids and dinner at least planned (if I know what we're cooking) he's fine if the sink is full of dirty dishes and the washing needs to be done!
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It's funny you said this though, cause I found this is something my DH does (now he's a SaHD). When I was on Mat Leave with Pip, I would go out quite often - every Tuesday I'd take Pip to the baby reading at the library then go have lunch at a nice cafe, and then I'd go to the mums & bubs session at the cinema - all with walking. Now I have no problem taking Pip anywhere - for 10 mins or a whole day, I know it's easier to arrange a whole day than 10mins!!!!
DH on the other hand didn't go anywhere with Pip and he now won't take Pip out if there's a possibility of Pip needing food / drink / toilet.
Just get out there! If you keep your nappy bag packed at all times, then you'll find it easier and easier to get out - I grabbed a large cosmetic bag for the car, and kept just 2 nappies, a couple of wipes in a snap-lock bag (can revitalise them with a little water) and a bandana to change him on. And that is literally all I'd need to go out! You'll work it out, and be fine - just take that first step.
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I'm the same as boobaloo and OP. I hate being stuck at home to much.
Even now at 30wks pregnant i have to get out of the house everyday that i'm not working even if it's just for a coffee or going to the park for 20mins.
having said that i am terrible at living in the moment and find i'm always thinking about the next thing i have to do at home. Especially now as i'm desperate to nest but with work and a 2 yr old it's impossible. I also feel really guilty if i don't play with Olive enough at home and am a little more house work orientated then normal atm.
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Yep that was me until recently, i went out for MG on a tuesday, i did my food shopping on the same day and that was it... BUT recently i have started walking with another BB girls from my area and i've almost found it easier... crazy right.
I clean the kitchen after the girls go to bed at night, i get up we have breakfast rinse the dishes and pop them in the sink, leave early for our walk, do our walk then library time on a wed & fri, come home, quick lunch, girls in bed and then i clean the lounge and do washing etc, when they wake i clean other things while they follow.
Because we've been out there is actually less mess.. IYKWIM
GL with it all, maybe just set 1 day a week for now as your GO OUT day, go to the shops or the park or for a walk
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