I have a situation that I just can't handle on my own

[Sair]

I know it has been a long while since I have posted but I just have no where else to turn. I am alone in this country and for those who know me, my partner and I split just after Christmas 2009.

Initially after the split, my partner gave me permission to move 200km away if I accepted a small amount of assets. I was readily going to accept this offer but I needed a lawyer to sign off on what my partner had drawn up. I took this paper to a lawyer who said he was not going to sign this offer on my behalf because it was unfair to me and told me to persue my fair share of the assets. I told him I was happy with the arrangement and he says to me that he won't sign it. I ummmed and ahhhed over his convincing argument on why I should chase what was fair and made several mind changes over the deal until I settled on going for 100% of the assets as my lawyer told me I should do (very small asset pool). I decided to go for the lot as my lawyer I thought knew best. My ex and I went to mediation and came up with an agreement on me moving 200km away but he needed to discuss with his family about it first. Unknowingly my lawyer had served my ex with papers asking for 100% just after mediation and my ex revoked the permission to move. Now because of legal costs I will wind up with nothing but money doesn't matter at this stage to me. I am studying a health sciences degree online but only this semester is offered online and uni is 450km away and I am still trying to only move 200km away to be fair on visitation for the children and be fair on the fact I am trying to better the future for us. I offered my ex-partner a similar visitation but with me living 200km away but was rejected today. I have fired my lawyer and am taking him to legal commission services for his ineptitude, the fact he has lost me money and for the fact he has not communicated with me efficiently and kept me in the loop, I have court in less than 2 weeks and not sure what to do in regards to my fight to move 200km away, I really feel that my lawyer has set me up to fail. I don't know what I am looking for but I am scared that I am going to have to go to court on less than 2 weeks to represent myself and I am looking for a glimmer of hope that someone else has gone though this and won. My only options are win and give ex similar visitation or stay and quit my degree.



I need help and have zero support.

[Maruschke]

Gosh, how incredibly frustrating and stressful. i do not know what I would advice, just big hugs and I hope you get a favourable outcome in two weeks. Can you quit uni for a semester while this gets sorted?

[surprised]

Hi hun,

What is the purpose of your degree? Is there another route you can take to get where you're wanting to go? Can you transfer unis?

Have you explained to ex about your lawyer?

[Sair]

I am aiming for dietetics and the only offerings are Melbs or Ade and Melbs is in state so I go to a Melb uni. I can't take any other route for dietetics

Talked to ex about lawyer as well, he knows I am taking him to legal services commission.

[sneakysparkle]

Oh no, sorry that you have to go through this. I have no advice, but just wanted to say I hope things work out for you

[Rivlas]

Can you get legal aid to help?

[surprised]

Not sure if you're undergrad or postgrad and what point you're up to in your degree, but could you transfer to nutrition and study by distance? Charles Sturt Uni have undergrad by distance and Deakin offer postgrad by distance.

I know nutrition isn't the same as dietetics, but if it's the difference between studying and not studying, might be worth it?

Or maybe look at other distance study options? You could prob get credit for what you've done already in some courses.

Just a thought. Hugs hun xoxox

[Sair]

I am currently studying distance but next semester I am required to be on campus for certain subjects, this is a nutritionist degree and I am hoping to follow with a masters in dietetics at Deakin. I have an appt with legal aid on Tuesday. My point is, my ex initially gave permission for me to leave if I settled for a minute amount of assets and my lawyer said he refused to sign that paper due to it being unfair. Now the assets have been chewed up by legal fees and my ex has revoked permission. I just don't see how my ex can take back permission. I really want to move to Melbs but in all fairness on visitation I am only asking to move halfway. I could care less at this stage about assets, he can keep the lot but I am offering him a fair amount of visitation with a similar amount to what he receives now but there is a 200km distance. It isn't like his family is involved with the kids when they are with me anyway, I have been shut out by the family and most of the towns people after all the stuff he has painted about my past. I used to have a circle of friends but now I am outcast from all but 3.