Wish me luck... first time IVF!!

[jojo1976]

Hello!

I went to see my FS yesterday for a meet & greet & discuss our secondary infertility. We went in thinking we probably wouldnt start anything until after xmas and ended up walking out of his clinic with a little esky full of goodies and a list of support meds we needed to collect from the pharmacy on the way home!!

So I have started today but I am actually day 4 in the cycle. Most of what my FS told us went in one ear and out the other so all I can do is take the meds and wait to see him again on day 9... major info overload & distracted by DS.... CRAZY!!

Initially I was so super excited but scared about the injections & meds etc but I told myself to get in the bathroom before DH & DS (2.7yrs) wake up and just did without a second thought! It was fine - I actually felt so happy with myself that I woke my husband to tell him it was done! Now I am sitting here and cnt stop thinking about will it or wont it work????

DH & I havent even told our families as we have just moved to Brisbane so they are very unsuspecting I have only told one GF who is also on the IVF journey so far and am thinking I may keep it that way - is this silly of me? I am usually not a private person - I am an open book really. But will I need more support later? I was starting to think BB support was all I needed for now and that way we wont have the pressure or expectations from others and we wont get all the silly questions/comments either.... nothing worse than a silly sympathetic comment at the wrong time if you know what I mean PLUS the next time we see everyone is back home in Melbourne for xmas and we dont want to be the centre of attention.

Looking forward to hanging here at BB.

Jojo x

Me (35) DH (34)
DS (2.7yrs) after 2 1/2 yrs TTC & got PG after a Lap.

[Maruschke]

Wow things did move fast! I hope it goes well for you. Most clinics are happy if you call mid-cycle for clarification . So exciting! I have EPU tomorrow so if it works for both of us we won't be that far apart!

[jacklicky]

Good luck with it Jojo,

I didn't tell anyone we were doing IVF at the start....as time went on with us I did gradually tell a few people but never really told them anything specific about what was happening when cause I found that too hard to talk about and then too much pressure to talk when things wern't working out so well.... I used forums and blogs if I wanted to talk cause sometimes its easier to talk to others who are going through the same thing cause the really get it....after a while you will work out who you want to know or not....

Goodluck again (and for your EPU too Maruschke)

[Kashby]

Hi Jojo,

Good luck!!!! Hope you achieve what you desire And as for it being silly not to tell anyone else? It seems as if you have enough to think/(not) worry about and your friends will be there whenever you want or need them. If an open book person is not being an open book, it is for a reason and those who care about you will give you what you need when or if you need it regardless of when you ask

K

[Jane:)]

Hi Jojo,

I'm new to all this too, so I can completely relate. I really hope that everything goes well with you first cycle. You've given me hope that not all the needes will hurt that bad Hope all goes well.

[jojo1976]

Wow things did move fast! I hope it goes well for you. Most clinics are happy if you call mid-cycle for clarification . So exciting! I have EPU tomorrow so if it works for both of us we won't be that far apart!

I hope your EPU went well & you are ok xx .

[jojo1976]

Good luck with it Jojo,

I didn't tell anyone we were doing IVF at the start....as time went on with us I did gradually tell a few people but never really told them anything specific about what was happening when cause I found that too hard to talk about and then too much pressure to talk when things wern't working out so well.... I used forums and blogs if I wanted to talk cause sometimes its easier to talk to others who are going through the same thing cause the really get it....after a while you will work out who you want to know or not....

Goodluck again (and for your EPU too Maruschke)

Thanks so much for your kind words - everything going well so far

[jojo1976]

Hi Jojo,

Good luck!!!! Hope you achieve what you desire And as for it being silly not to tell anyone else? It seems as if you have enough to think/(not) worry about and your friends will be there whenever you want or need them. If an open book person is not being an open book, it is for a reason and those who care about you will give you what you need when or if you need it regardless of when you ask

K

Thanks for your support and advise xx

[jojo1976]

Hi Jojo,

I'm new to all this too, so I can completely relate. I really hope that everything goes well with you first cycle. You've given me hope that not all the needes will hurt that bad Hope all goes well.

Good luck with everything! You will be fine.

[jojo1976]

Thanks everyone!

I am currently day 10 and still havent told anyone - its actually fun having a little secret.
I had a scan yesterday and have 14 follicles. I have to go back again on Saturday morning for another scan and he is estimating EPU on Monday.
I left feeling very excited yesterday - my FS was happy with what he saw which gives me hope he says he should get approx 10-12 eggs which sounds good to me!

I hope all is going well for everyone else

Jojo xx

[myturn]

hi jojo!

I too just started IVF - cycle in Oct, was my first, and am going for a second cycle in december.
I too... am usually an open book, and have found keeping the secret quite difficult - and I don't care if people know it was IVF, but if it doesn't work, it's telling people it didn't work... and having to do that every time. Someone in BB once wrote that it is watching everyone else's disappointment that is difficult, you're disappointed enough yourself when it doens't work, and then you have to see/stay calm/cope, with other people who care about you being disappointed as well.

I mean few people go around telling everyone... "oh I had sex this month, right around the time I ovulated, but unfortunately it didn't 'catch'..." so if you don't want to tell anyone - that would be perfectly okay

Definitely I have found talking on BB has been the best thing to help me cope with all the IVF stuff. It has been a lifesaver.

good luck with it all

sending your way

[Kashby]

OMG!!! I would kill for so many follicles and the hope of so many eggs!!!! OK, as you know I wouldn't but the point is how fantastic for you!!! Good luck for scan and EPU. Willing them all on

[jojo1976]

hi jojo!

I too just started IVF - cycle in Oct, was my first, and am going for a second cycle in december.
I too... am usually an open book, and have found keeping the secret quite difficult - and I don't care if people know it was IVF, but if it doesn't work, it's telling people it didn't work... and having to do that every time. Someone in BB once wrote that it is watching everyone else's disappointment that is difficult, you're disappointed enough yourself when it doens't work, and then you have to see/stay calm/cope, with other people who care about you being disappointed as well.

I mean few people go around telling everyone... "oh I had sex this month, right around the time I ovulated, but unfortunately it didn't 'catch'..." so if you don't want to tell anyone - that would be perfectly okay

Definitely I have found talking on BB has been the best thing to help me cope with all the IVF stuff. It has been a lifesaver.

good luck with it all

sending your way

Good Luck with your next cycle - my fingers are crossed for you