We don't do Valentines Day. We tell each other we love each other multiple times a day, go on dates etc and generally treat each other like the centre of the universe every day anyway. We didn't know what to do about Valentines Day when we first got together. It doesn't mean anything to either of us but we didn't want to offend the other person, in case they thought it was.
After discussion, we developed our own tradition, of buying either a really, over the top, soppy card or a funny/filthy card for each other. The worst/best wins. And that's it for us for VDay. We make a big deal out of our anniversaries and birthdays instead.
We did 1 valentines, it was 2 weeks after we got together and figured we may aswell. When I told him I don't care about valentines day he was cheering. Our 1st date anniversary is just before and our wedding anniversary is just after so we do enough celebrating then and don't need valentines as another reason when it holds no signifigance at all for us. I do like buying some flowers the next day when they are less then half the price because I love having fresh flowers on my table.
We don't do Valentines day as a rule. Like you we prefer to celebrate our anniversary which is a fortnight later. I think in the very early stage of our relationship DH might have bought me flowers but since then nothing.
When I lived in Melbourne and worked in the CBD I must admit I just got tired of the consumerism of the day, it was like a competition in he office to see who received the most elaborate and expensive flower arrangement. I think it totally lost the meaning of the day.
When I was with an ex fiancee he sent me a dozen red roses to my work, I was absoluetly furious as we didn't have the money to pay for them (I knew he had put it on the credit card) and I knew he didn't do it out of love for me it was just to make himself looked good. (Especially as we had agreed we weren't acknowledging the day) Then to make matters worse we were at his family he had great delight in informing them of what he didn't making sure that they knew that I didn't get him anything.
Hence to say that relationship didn't last too much longer, the writing was well on the wall by that time.
not really, we might say 'oh happy V day' when/if we remember, but neither of us expect anything, because like you L&B we do that sort of thing daily and randomly anyway.
I did get him a card last year, but only cause it was our first one as a husband and wife and I was excited to buy a card that said 'to my husband',
My dad gets mum a card, but never writes on it, because it is meant to be anonymous (like secret admirer) a few days after wards, like when the hype goes down, he steals the card back and gives it back to her the next year, he has used the same card for 5 years straight and she has never noticed its the same one!
We do all those things too (minus the dates out... We do dates in). But I like the idea of everyone celebrating their love at the exact moment. Like the universal energy of love. Reminds me of an old cartoon. We don't go crazy on Valentines day. But we do celebrate. This year I'll be making him a yummy dinner (as usual) and we'll probably do cute things. Last year he changed my desktop background to a picture that said "I LOVE YOU" it's only a hallmark holiday if you make it that way. I see it as a reflection of how much love there is not the only time to show it. If that makes sense.
No, we don't. Right from our first Valentine's Day together DH (then just the BF) said it was "commercial nonsense" and said he didn't buy into it. I was a bit miffed initially but I do get it. DH can be a softie though, over the years he's made me Valentine's Day cards and sent me sweet text messages when I was interstate a couple of times. And he always does well in the gift stakes at b'days, christmas, our anniversary and mother's day. So I certainly have no complaints ... it's only Val's Day we don't do.
We don't really make a big deal out of it, so much so that DP said "waht are we doing for V Day"and i nearly choked.... i said we haven't done V day in quite some time and he said "surely we do, i mean don't we"
We did when we first got together but nothing much since.
It would be nice to get out kid free for the night knowing quite a few other people are 'sharing the love' aswell, but this yr i did the free msg in the paper from the girls..... something i've never done... lol
I get that Rouge. I think it's sweet that people do things. I suppose I rebel against the idea of there being an official day, like someone's telling me what to do. It's just not for us.
We do make an effort trying to find the perfect card, though. So far, I'm winning
Kazzo - liking the idea of cheap flowers the next day too. We grow our own roses but I'm sure I could find something else.
we dont do anything here and havent since we met. Now our wedding anniversary is the day before so we prefer to celebrate that as its important to us, valentines holds no special meaning to either of us. We are going for brunch monday morning for our anniversary, should be much quieter than dinner valentines day!
DH has worked every V Day that I've known him so we don't really DO anything on the day, we don't buy each other cards and presents, but I'll probably go and have dinner with him at work. I'm not really fussed about it all.
I never really cared much for it and DH hasn't either.
Could have a lot to do with that it always seems to fall on or around the Southern 80 boat race in Echuca that he has gone to watch for as long as i've known him.
I'm not a fan, but DH and I got together a few days after V Day. A bunch of friends were talking about it and I said I never got a Valentines. DH said the same thing. I gave him a hug and said "Happy V's J!" And he replied with "You're a bit late...."
It was hilarious. Last year he got a me an 'apology V Day card". I doubt we'll do anything this year.
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Does anyone else NOT do Valentines Day?
that could be fun.
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