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thread: I sucked today

  1. #1
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jan 2006
    11,633

    I sucked today

    I forgot to pick my son up from school. Or rather, I got all confused about the time - got a phone call about 20 minutes after the end of school (I was thinking I had another 30 mins before I needed to go get him) asking if I was coming.. or what?
    I feel terrible about it.
    DS is fine. Shows what an independent and resilient little thing he is. He told me he just told the teacher that he could go home on his own, since he knows the way (though usually mummy helps me cross the road but I know to just look and look before crossing)
    my mum joked that I"ve probably gone on a list somewhere of potentially derelict parents.

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Jan 2012
    WA
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    Trust me that happened aaallll the time at Kindy last year!

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Jan 2008
    Brisbane
    5,039

    Oh that's hard sorry you had a bad day. But really if the worst thing you ever do is leave your son somewhere safe where people are looking after him for an extra 20mins, then he is one lucky boy !

  4. #4

    Mar 2004
    Sparta
    12,662

    I slept right through school pick-up once. I think I was more upset than DS.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Jul 2006
    Cloud nine :D
    6,309

    Hugs! I slept through picking my step sons up before. I was so sick with my last pregnancy.

    It happens xoxox.


    Cat xox

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Dec 2008
    Brisbane, QLD
    5,171

    Oops that sucks. Glad he was ok. Hope you are too.

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Aug 2007
    Sydney
    1,691

    Mate, two Fridays ago we were late for school (I’m blaming DH for not winding the clock in the lounge room, it was getting slower and slower and I didn’t notice). We got there after lines and they were all in the classroom sitting down and doing their work. I was mortified. Then Friday last week I sent DS1 in his normal school uniform, I should have sent him in his sports uniform. Mortified again. Today was the first Friday I’ve got right!

    Your DS is resilient, and independent, and confident, and extremely intelligent. I think you’re doing a fabulous job. Just like me! PMSL. I know how you feel though, I cried (a bit later, in the car) when we were late and then about him being in the wrong uniform. But he was fine, just like your DS.

  8. #8
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jan 2006
    11,633

    oh, confessing my sins makes me feel better! Those Catholics are really on to something.
    Thanks everyone for your empathy (and sympathy!)

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Nov 2011
    SE Melbourne
    2,975

    Oh sweetheart! Don't beat yourself up too much!!!

    If it makes you feel better my mum forgot all if us a few times!!! Lol. First time was when I was 6 months old. Asleep in the bassinet by the front door. She drove half way (15minuyes) to my grandmothers before she realised!!! I was still asleep. And yes. She was more upset than I!!! Every parent does it. And it doesn't mean you suck! You just got the time wrong!! Expect it to happen again one day!!!

  10. #10

    Jun 2010
    District Twelve
    8,425

    my mum joked that I"ve probably gone on a list somewhere of potentially derelict parents.
    I'm on that list.

    Very first day of prep, I didn't pick DD up at all. Well, not until 12.15pm when they were meant to be picked up at 11.30am. The office woman rang me asking me where I was

    Problem was, I enrolled DD on the last day of the previous year. I didn't receive all the paperwork. In my ignorance I had no idea preps only did a couple of hours a day for the first few weeks...

    So yeah, welcome to the bad mum club

    Ps. It hasn't had bearing on her schooling or mental health that I am aware

  11. #11
    Registered User

    Sep 2008
    Adelaide
    3,201

    I"ve probably gone on a list somewhere of potentially derelict parents.
    It must be a long list as I am on it too...

    I got to work one day (chatting to DS the whole time) and then realised I had forgotten to take him to Childcare (Luckily only just around the corner)
    I've also sailed past child care and then had to do a u-turn and go and pick him up

    You don't suck, you are normal!!

  12. #12
    Registered User

    Jul 2009
    Riding it out...
    4,959

    my mum joked that I"ve probably gone on a list somewhere of potentially derelict parents.
    I'd say I'm on there too. I forgot to pick DS1 up from Kindy once and got the phone call .
    I forgot to pick up DS1&2 from primary school a couple of years later. My neighbour was picking up her son and walked them home. She got them to wait at her place so she could come and make sure I wasn't in the house collapsed on the floor. Only to find me completely oblivious, and making a fruit salad for when they boys got home. I was just a tad mortified when I realised the time

    I was late to pick up DS1 from soccer training a few years later. About 20 minutes late, in winter and it was pouring with rain. He was sitting in one of the coaches cars waiting, the last one there. Way to feel like a crap parent!

    You're definitely not alone.

    Oh dear, I sound really derelict reading all that

  13. #13
    Registered User

    Jul 2008
    Melbourne
    3,244

    truly sucking would have been leaving him there over the weekend! it was an accident & i bet you'll triple check times from now on. don't be too hard on yourself

  14. #14
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    Sep 2008
    Bunbury, Western Australia
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    While I'm not there yet... My mum was pretty terrible at picking us up on time. I can probably count on one hand how many times she was there on time! I was forever thankful when we started highschool and I could catch the bus or call her on my newly required mobile phone to see where the hell she was!

  15. #15
    Registered User

    May 2008
    Melbourne
    1,838

    Hugs, it's a terrible feeling i know.

    I did it once last year when i was on the phone to my aunty, imagined i had all the time in the world (a few hours can go so quick sometimes) and i was only a few minutes late but he was the last one to be collected He was fine also, didn't have a care in the world but it was me knowing i'd done it and what the teachers may have thought of me... an incompotant mother that bothered me.

    Next week you'll be looking at the clock every 5 min to ensure that you never do it again.

    Don't beat yourself up too much you're a wonderful mum

  16. #16
    Registered User

    Nov 2008
    in the ning nang nong
    12,163

    oh, how times have changed!! I had a 2km walk to and from school, from prep onwards ... teachers wouldn't have known if we were picked up or not!!

    but a colleague's nephews are at a daycare, where if you're late at all (and I mean at all) they drop the kids off at the local police station, and notify the parents ... you have to pick them up from there ...

    my colleague's sister has only ever been late twice ...

    big hugs. we're all human

  17. #17
    Registered User

    Dec 2008
    Brisbane, QLD
    5,171

    oh, how times have changed!! I had a 2km walk to and from school, from prep onwards ... teachers wouldn't have known if we were picked up or not!!

    but a colleague's nephews are at a daycare, where if you're late at all (and I mean at all) they drop the kids off at the local police station, and notify the parents ... you have to pick them up from there ...

    my colleague's sister has only ever been late twice ...

    big hugs. we're all human

    Wow! Thats a bit OTT! We used to charge $1 per min the parent was late past closing time. If we couldn't contact them after an hour THEN we had to call the police.

  18. #18
    Registered User

    Feb 2006
    Newcastle, NSW
    4,219

    I once drank some chamomile tea, fell asleep and slept right through pick up time. The office didn't even try to call. My kids were so mad at me (they were 6 & 9 at the time) but joke now every time they see chamomile tea! Lol.

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