Working is really getting to me at the moment. I'm working 4 days a week. I know I should be grateful that I'm not working 5, but even the 4 is getting to me. DD is changing so much every day, she is learning so many new things (she's been saying lots of new words lately) and she isn't far off walking. I guess I'm just worried about missing firsts and stuff.....and I always said that I never wanted to be a parent who had their kids and then put them into childcare most of the time. Don't get me wrong, I love my job and we are very lucky that DD loves childcare, but I just wish we had the financial means to allow me (or even DH, but his job is really full time or nothing unfortunately) to spend more time with DD.....
Not really sure of the point of this post.....maybe to find out that I'm not the only person who feels this way?????
I was a SAHM for 3 years, went back to work 15 months ago (full time) and recently have been missing being able to stay home with DS. He'll be 5 this year and I feel like I've missed the last 2 years...
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You most certainly aren't the only one hun. It is just horrible leaving our little ones. No matter how much/little we work we miss our little ones like crazy. I work shift work too which can be horrible - sometimes I could over 30 overs without seeing them awake. It would and does devestate me.
Take some relief in knowing that you are helping keep food in your little girls belly, a roof over her head and clothes on her back. Enjoy every second you have with her when you aren't at work.
My DH often finds me sitting in their bedroom just watching them sleep when I'm missing them too much.
I am back to work in November and I am already dreading the thought of leaving my 3 beautiful kids.
I know how you feel. I worked full time and DD had to go into care from two months old
I will never get that time back but the good news is the time I spent at work back then is now paying off. I can work three days a week and still earn a very good wage (more than I was earning when working full-time back then). So I can spend more time with DD now she is old enough to appreciate it.
There are drawbacks sure, but I think, personally, I am in a good position now because of the heartache back then.
I felt the same way. I went back to work when DD was 10 mo for 4 days per week and it was too much for me. I had to tell DH to go back to work part-time / full-time do I could go part-time. It was really difficult and I felt so drained after work that I couldn't give my DD all the attention she needed.
When your at DD's child care next tell them that if she walks there they are not to tell you. That way when your at home and you see her walk it will be the first time and you will still get the full surprise. I did this when I was enrolling my DD1, luckily she walked before she started but I did the same for DD2.
Just think by working now your preparing yourself to have time off when your next bubs come and you will be able to enjoy them together.
It is so tough. A huge juggling act and if you're anything like me you find you can't give 100% to anything in your life... kids, partner, work, home, other things... nothing gets my full attention any more. I hate it.
Kazzo - That's a great idea about the walking! I just might do that It's also totally true what you said with regards to working more now so that I can have time with next bubs. I'm hoping we will be able to work things out financially that I'll only need to go back 3 days a week (initially at least) when we have the two. I figure that not only will childcare be much more expensive (well double actually lol), but with two I will really need more time to share myself around a bit more.
Thanks everyone for the support. I was sure I wasn't the only one feeling this way, but it's really hit me hard at the moment. I didn't feel this bad last year (DD went into child care at 6 months and I went straight back to 4 days), but I think that's because I was a bit over the reflux and playing with rattles....(DD only really started 'moving' at 10 months). After having the christmas break with her (I'm a teacher), I think I really realised again how much I was missing, which has been making things extra hard this year. Oh well.....hopefully this time next year I will be on maternity leave again with another little bubs. I'll definately appreciate my time much more next time.
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I wish I didn't have to work so much.....
When your at DD's child care next tell them that if she walks there they are not to tell you. That way when your at home and you see her walk it will be the first time and you will still get the full surprise. I did this when I was enrolling my DD1, luckily she walked before she started but I did the same for DD2.
It's also totally true what you said with regards to working more now so that I can have time with next bubs. I'm hoping we will be able to work things out financially that I'll only need to go back 3 days a week (initially at least) when we have the two. I figure that not only will childcare be much more expensive (well double actually lol), but with two I will really need more time to share myself around a bit more.
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