I felt the same way. I went back to work when DD was 10 mo for 4 days per week and it was too much for me. I had to tell DH to go back to work part-time / full-time do I could go part-time. It was really difficult and I felt so drained after work that I couldn't give my DD all the attention she needed.
When your at DD's child care next tell them that if she walks there they are not to tell you. That way when your at home and you see her walk it will be the first time and you will still get the full surprise. I did this when I was enrolling my DD1, luckily she walked before she started but I did the same for DD2.
Just think by working now your preparing yourself to have time off when your next bubs come and you will be able to enjoy them together.
It is so tough. A huge juggling act and if you're anything like me you find you can't give 100% to anything in your life... kids, partner, work, home, other things... nothing gets my full attention any more. I hate it.
Kazzo - That's a great idea about the walking! I just might do that It's also totally true what you said with regards to working more now so that I can have time with next bubs. I'm hoping we will be able to work things out financially that I'll only need to go back 3 days a week (initially at least) when we have the two. I figure that not only will childcare be much more expensive (well double actually lol), but with two I will really need more time to share myself around a bit more.
Thanks everyone for the support. I was sure I wasn't the only one feeling this way, but it's really hit me hard at the moment. I didn't feel this bad last year (DD went into child care at 6 months and I went straight back to 4 days), but I think that's because I was a bit over the reflux and playing with rattles....(DD only really started 'moving' at 10 months). After having the christmas break with her (I'm a teacher), I think I really realised again how much I was missing, which has been making things extra hard this year. Oh well.....hopefully this time next year I will be on maternity leave again with another little bubs. I'll definately appreciate my time much more next time.
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When your at DD's child care next tell them that if she walks there they are not to tell you. That way when your at home and you see her walk it will be the first time and you will still get the full surprise. I did this when I was enrolling my DD1, luckily she walked before she started but I did the same for DD2.
It's also totally true what you said with regards to working more now so that I can have time with next bubs. I'm hoping we will be able to work things out financially that I'll only need to go back 3 days a week (initially at least) when we have the two. I figure that not only will childcare be much more expensive (well double actually lol), but with two I will really need more time to share myself around a bit more.
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