Birth Certificate!

**ladybirdflies** · November 22nd, 2012, 07:20 PM

I have two girls from my previous relationship, and one with my new husband and a baby on the way. When dd3 was born, I was heartbroken that they did not put her big sisters on the birth certificate. It really upset me for a long time, even though I filled them out on the paper work, because they are not full blood they did not get put on.
All these sad feeling have come up again, as another baby is coming into our family, it just makes me feel so sad. i used to love seeing all my siblings names and ages on my birth certificate, and perhaps I am just being all romantic about it. But it really stings, they are all of my children, they should all be on there.

Has anyone else had these feelings?

**misty** · November 22nd, 2012, 07:43 PM

That is strange. My hubby has all his siblings on his birth certificate, only half of them are full blood siblings. I completely understand why you would be upset about that.

**RainbowRiver** · November 22nd, 2012, 08:02 PM

Oh wow, I've never thought about that. I assumed they listed all children, regardless of the father. That's really going to stir emotions for me if my 3 previous children do not appear on my baking bubbas

**~TT40~** · November 22nd, 2012, 08:11 PM

I'm surprised aswell... when R was born we had to list all her siblings (DH's children) on the paperwork but then had to tick the box that said we DONT want them on the certifcate. had we not ticked the box they all would have been.
I can understand why you would be upset. maybe check with births,deaths and marriages to see if they will be on your next bubs.

**Mumma T** · November 22nd, 2012, 08:27 PM

Maybe it depends on the state but Vic is definitely other children of the parents relationship. My brother is my half brother and he never appeared on mine. We didn't know as kids and I only ever had an extract of entry as that doesn't show the other kids on it

**Jellyfish** · November 22nd, 2012, 09:04 PM

In QLD it says "previous children of this relationship" also which meant we couldn't include DD1

I know what you mean, it does suck. They are sisters. It feels odd to think of them in any other way.

**Trillian** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:07 AM

I would look into it - if there is an error on it they will correct it and send you a new one. On DS1's certificate they spelt our address wrong and had my age wrong, so I called them to explain and I had to send it back and they sent a new one out.

**~TT40~** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:09 AM

that really sucks. Spock was born in the ACT. their forms had 3 section, one for our previous children, one for mine, one for his.

**blessedatlast** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:14 AM

I was 16 and 21 when my brothers were born and I was a bit upset that I couldn't be on their birth cert.. ExP's child wasn't on my kids certificates either. I do not like it. I think you should have the option for ALL siblings to be listed, not just from the current relationship.

**RainbowRiver** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:25 AM

So... In Vic, only the current relationship child is listed... Meaning my 3 other children won't be on his/her certificate??

**ladybirdflies** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:28 AM

Thanks for all the replies everyone! I was in baby haze but I remember listing children from this relationship and another section that I listed children from previous relationship, so I thought, great, they will be on there. I certainly don't recall a box to tick to have them on, but I will call and double check. I am in NSW and friends have had the same issue.

I think it would be useful to have the choice, but I guess with all the merging families perhaps it is difficult? Maybe they need a whole new template for today's families where both or one partner brings children into the relationship!

Rosetti, i sounds like they won't be. Perhaps look into it now!

**RainbowRiver** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:35 AM

Ladybirdflies, I have emailed Vic BDM, I want to know now. It's really got me feeling down reading your story. It's not fair that youre a mum and past children are just 'forgotten' and dropped off an important document like that

**nothing2lose** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:37 AM

But they're not forgotten. They have their own birth certificates.

**RainbowRiver** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:43 AM

But they're not forgotten. Thy have their own birth certificates.

I mean it in the way that they are not recognized as being a sibling (regardless if they are half siblings, they still have the same mother).

**nothing2lose** · November 23rd, 2012, 06:46 AM

I guess I don't see it as that important. I certainly don't want my DD listed on the birth certificate of my ex's children.

**~TT40~** · November 23rd, 2012, 07:29 AM

this is where choice comes into it. some people do want them listed. I'm like you N2L both DH and I didn't want them (her half brothers and sisters) on Spocks, and that is fine, but others obviously do want them on their and they want the option to.