I can't believe how close we got to it, after I was so not confident at the start of it even working. After my many annoying posts in the BFing chatter thread with so many stupid questions (thanks to all that took the time to answer, very much appreciated) and I didn't think that I would even get past 6 weeks.
We got through the year of 2 hourly feeds. We got through the biting.
And now because of an accidental pregnancy, my milk has completely dried up. She falls asleep with daddy now instead of me. Its quite upsetting to get SO close to something and to not get there.
*sigh* From DS feeding for 3 days, DD1 not feeding at all, DD2 feeding for one month (mixed feeding) and now my record of 23 months with DD3.
Its sad. Could be pregnancy hormones but I'm crying and angry that it ended this way.
You did an amazing, amazing job. Seriously. The same thing happened to me, except we only made it to 13 months. So I know what you mean about it ending the way it did. But you really did do an amazing job
Fabulous! Right now you're no doubt feeling some pretty mixed emotions - and I think it's totally understandable that you're feeling sad and disappointed - but in time I hope you'll look back and feel really proud. You did it. 23 months, 24 months, well it's all good. And just think - how long will you feed your next little one...?
Im sorry your breastfeeding relationship has ended the way it has and its not suprising that you are angry and upset. This isnt the way you planned it.
Having said that, you have done an amazing job, you perservered through so much. You should be so proud of yourselves and Im sure in time you will be. For now just give yourself time to grieve what you have lost - allow yourself to feel however you need to and dont let anyone invalidate those feelings.
babe - sorry it hasn't ended the way you imagine, but you seriously are amazing and should also be so proud about what you have achieved after everything you went through! xoxoxo
Well done!!! I hope it's a bit of sad/happy you feel in some way. You've done so well to get as far as you did and really should be proud of yourself. I too was cut short feeding my son when i fell pregnant with my daughter. We carried on until i was almost 3 months (he was 14-15 months) but i just couldn't stand it any longer, there were a few biting incidents that really really hurt and my nipples became so sensitive that i was cringing in anticipation of him latching on. I felt quite guilty though too because i was hoping to make it to two years with him. We didn't but i have with my daughter
Good luck with your pregnancy journey and hopefully you'll get just as far if not further with chicken #5 xo
Oh Mel, big hugs hunny. I can understand your frustration at not being able to end things when both you and your little miss wanted to, you were both kind of forced into it by nature. I think I would probably feel the same too.
But please also try to recognise the awesome achievement you and Miss S have made. You've done a great job, and have given her a great gift of yourself and your milk.
Thanks everyone. I blogged about it last night, and it helped looking back at some photos - from being such a very small baby to the big girl she is now! I am proud, but still sad - much sadder than I thought I would be, I didn't think I would feel like this.
I gave her some milk in a sippy cup just before, and she drank it, and then went to sleep in her bed. Sad
Oh hun just wanna give you another I know others have said it but I definitely sympathize/empathize with what you're going through. Ironically I felt very similar with ds2 self-weaning a few months ago and he was my longest bf! All of mine have weaned pretty much as soon as or a few months into the next pg, its never easy to end so fast but you can still maintain a close bond with dd3 without BFing (im sure you know ) maybe try think of it as a way for both of you to slowly get used to the idea of her not being 'the baby' anymore? I often think it would be lovely to tandem feed but at the same time having only one baby to feed means you are almost forced into quite mummy-bubby time when they are little. Try and enjoy these few months and look forward to doing it all again, hopefully with less struggles as well hey!
I just wanted to say I think you're amazing, you've done a brilliant job!
DS1 weaned 10 days before his second birthday, so I know the feeling of getting so close to a milestone you wanted to badly and missing it by such a short time. But you know what, you fed your little girl for 23 months, that's 95.8 percent of 2 years, which is totally awesome!!
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