I'm really, really struggling with letting go of my baby girl. DD5 is my youngest and I just don't want her to grow up. I'm over protective, I baby her too much, when I think about her getting older it makes me really sad, literally brings me to tears. I know exactly why I feel this way but I really need some advice on how to let her be a big girl.
Can you try to shift your mind set so that everything she does isn't as the last of your babies, but look forward to the new and exciting things she can do as she gets older?
I assume that you are trying to hold on to life as it has been for many years, with little children to nurture and look after. Celebrate her independence and enjoy watching her grow into her own person as you move into the next part of your life.
Thanks for your response, I need to get my mind into a different gear. Now that she's started school I do praise her over the "big girl" things she does, I tell her how proud I am of her, it's just deep down in my heart, that nurturing feeling (you hit the nail on the head).
Have you started to nurture yourself more. Now your children are older, you would likely have a little more time to be able to do things for you. Take an hour out of the day and do something for yourself.
What about mummy daughter days. With both of your daughters and you. You could cook up a storm together, or go out for a 'coffee' with them, go on a girly date for dinner/movie, paint your nails and do your hair, watch girly movies at home....maybe let her and her sister take the lead and organise things and you go along with it all, so they can spoil you a little too.
That is a lovely idea, a "big girls" day out, maybe next weekend the girls and I can spend the day together, they will love that and so will I, thank you.
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you are definately not alone. I only have one, but she is 6 now, and i struggle with the "big girl" growing up in front of my eyes. Each milestone, the last day of kindy, the kindy concert, the first day of school, yes, they all tug at me too.
All these little steps towards independence (from you), when they ride their bike for first time, when they want to brush their own hair etc. You're dying to jump in, cos they're not brushing ALL the hair, there are still knots left, but they are giving it a real try and are so eager to hear you say "yes, you did it".
Every time, it reminds me, this is the last time she will be that little/young (and no more for me). You are definately not alone Diane.
I am proud as anything, that my child is becoming independent, but yes, everyday she seems to need me less and less. Sometimes that is a blessing, esp things that hurt my back to help her with, other times, i would love to keep doing it for her, but i also don't want her to grow up and not know how to be self sufficient - so it's a tussle in my own head.
You still spend time with your child, but instead of doing every single thing for them, there is so much time you need to hold back, and let them do it themselves, even when it takes longer and you're dying to jump in! It's so tempting!
As soon as i look at your siggy, i know the answer, she's your last, so of course, it must hit home more for you - hugs.
I didn't get a choice with my dd. she decided she wants to be like her older siblings. I did say there are sometimes mummy still wants to be mummy and sometimes I can just be mum . Like the second poster I changed my way of thinking and stopped thinking of it as letting go but watching them grow and develop. And welcomed new stages
Although I do dread each stage at times. Like dd will probably lose a tooth sometime this year and as silly as it is it makes me sad to think this is my last time with a first tooth. Does that make sense
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How do I let her be a big girl?
. Like the second poster I changed my way of thinking and stopped thinking of it as letting go but watching them grow and develop. And welcomed new stages
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