What would you do?

[jenjen25]

Hi All,
My son has his cousin's birthday on sunday. I've just spoken with my SIL & her youngest has hand, foot & mouth. My son had this really bad 2 years ago in hospital & everything. Would you still go?
My Mum said not to that it wasn't worthit just in case, but i don't know how it would be taken by the inlaws. Probably frowned upon, they already think i'm over the top as it is.
Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
Jen

[LysnDan]

If it was me, I wouldn't go. Not with that risk.

Don't think about your inlaws and what they think. The health of your family is much more important.

hfm is highly contagious he shouldn't be having a party to start with while he has it!

[Nai]

If he has already had it would he be immune?

[Tinks]

I think you can get HFM more than once. Given the severity of the last dose he had of it, I woudln't go.

[diannescruffy]

I wouldn't give two hoots what the in laws thought, the health of your child comes first. Would it be too hard to postpone the party until the child is well enough and not have the risk of spreading the disease.

Regards,
Dianne

[AnyDream]

I wouldn't go. I wouldn't go because if it was my kid who was sick I would postpone the party for a week or fortnight or whatever. In fact I have had to do this more than once through the years & none of my friends or family have ever made a fuss over it. Kids understand, they're just happy when the party day finally comes.

[Rosey]

I wouldn't think twice about what your inlaws say or think. Your family's health is priority. Give the party a miss.

[dusty]

Avoid the party!

[black_rose]

You can get it more than once my poor dd got it twice. She really suffers with it too all her joints swell. If it was me I wouldn't want to risk it. Doesn't matter what the in laws think its your sons health. You can organize a catch up once he is better.

[Jaycee]

Surely if he has a contagious disease they would postpone the party? That would make sense. If not, I wouldn't go and would organise another time to catch up when everybody is healthy again!

[wysiwyg]

Are they thinking it will be cleared up by then? E.g Once the blisters are dried up they are allowed back to childcare. With DS blisters first seen on Friday by following Friday we had all clear from doctor to go back to childcare.

For me it would depend on stage of illness. You can get it more than once is true but severity is less second time around in most cases.

[Heaven]

eek, no way I would be going. I think it's pretty rude they're still having the party.

[wysiwyg]

From your original post it I read it as it being not the person whose birthday it is who has the HFM - is that right?

Maybe the infected person will be over it, maybe they are planning on the child with HFM being elsewhere - I would find out more e.g when the HFM first presented and look at whether your child is going to come in contact with the infected one and then make the decision.

If it had happened to be my daughter's party for example on the Sunday after DS had been given the all clear on the Friday by the doc I would go ahead with the party.

[Nai]

Yeah ok if you can get it more than once I would not be going and explain why!

[diannescruffy]

I think it's the birthday child's sibling, so would presume the child would be there.

Regards,
Dianne

[Ginger]

No I wouldn't go

[jenjen25]

Hey everyone, thank you so much for all your advice & feedback. It's the birthday boy's younger brother that has hfm. He only went to the dr's yesterday & blisters are coming up now on his hands & feet. I quarantined myself for 2 weeks when my son had it, but he was really bad. I know the RCH fact sheets say to stay away from other kids. I guess i'll just have to see how he is by the weekend. What's the bet my husband says don't worry it'll be fine. If it was me i's postpone because i'd be so worried about any other kid getting it, but she's pretty relaxed so i don't know what she'll decide.
If it was a friend i'd definitely not go but when its family its much harder to say no. Ha ha ha.
Thanks heaps for your feedback, maybe i can grow a pair & stand up for what i want to do. Very hard to stand up to the in laws family & Do what i want, i always get pushed into doing stuff i don't really want to do.
Good luck to me xxx