My daughter Ava has been gone 2 weeks now. When did the physical ache of grief leave you? How long did the exhaustion last for.
I miss my girl so much, I hate feeling all of this.
I haven't lost a child. I won't even try to imagine what you're going through. It is my most terrifying thought.
I lost a cousin I was close to 2 years ago. While it's easier now, there's still an ache there when I think of her. My mil lost 2 children as babies. She said that the pain never goes away, but you learn to live with it in time. Her time frame for the worst of it was the first 12 months.
Everyone grieves in their own way, in their own time. Give yourself that. No one can give you a time frame for your grief. Allow it & do what feels right for you x
It doesn't. Well, okay, it sort of does, I shouldn't give absolutes like that, but sometimes during a normal day it still hits like a tonne of bricks. As clover said, you learn to live with the pain, it fades into the background, but it doesn't fully go away.
As for the initial darkness and physical exhaustion, which I suspect is what you're really asking about, that lifted in patches for me. I distracted myself as best I could with reading books and watching movies the first month or two. After that I threw myself into househunting since we were essentially evicted the day Ianto was born and we'd been living with my parents, but obviously that's not typical. So while I was doing those things, the grief was like constant background noise - sometimes I could "hear" over it, sometimes it consumed everything else.
The first months are absolutely the most hardest but you will find the strength within you to live with this pain. I wish you weren't going through this but know that it does get easier. In a few weeks it will be 9yrs since we lost Emmanuel and as much as it hurts I also feel a love in my heart that makes me feel at peace. Sending you lots of strength xx
When did the physical ache of grief go?
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