Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss -February 2009
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Hi Ladies
First would just like to say how terrible it has been watching the news of all the fires. I really hope that you and your families are all safe and well
Shortcake - Glad af finally arrived and you can begin ttc again.
Mel - Glad that your op is over and that you got some answers. Hope you recover real soon and get that bfp.
Babymiracles - Sorry to hear that you have been feeling so stressed
Meh - Glad that the uti has finally gone.
Theresa - CONGRATULATIONS on seeing the little heartbeat.
Naenae - Welcome back, Hope your ttc journey is short and you get that bfp soon.
Jen - Sorry that you didnt get any answers from your bt results.
Karenvan - CONGRATULATIONS on seeing the heartbeat.
Smi - Glad that your nt results were good, hope you are keeping well.
Big to Megsmum, Eryberry, Hannah,Fifi,Ajc,Plc,Toccara,Wth,Mannie,Jackjack,Sa mandpoppy,Indy and everyone else i have not mentioned. Thinking of you all ,hope you are all well.
Afm - Had midwife app yesterday, took bloods but will not be able to have any early scan as i have had no bleeding. Will hopefully have first scan in 3 to 4 weeks when past 12 weeks.
and big for my fishy friends, megsmum & babymiracles!
issy--Thrilled to see your ticker moving right along! Lots of bellyrubs for you!
AJC--Saw Sam's video on FB! Soooooo cute! Isn't it funny how they make those sucking sounds and motions when they aren't even nursing?
WTH--Ok, picture me with a punkin' chucker....chucking more of those your way! Best of luck with your BT's today--praying for some nice, high numbers! Going away for 2 weeks? Does that mean we'll have to miss hearing from you for that long? That's a bogus thought, but hope you enjoy your time away--I'm sure it will help keep your mind distracted! *hugs*
chappas--Hope your appt. went well... while it may be frustrating to not have had a scan, at least it's a positive sign that there's no complications! Big *hugs*
Mannie--Grrr.... thyroid results normal. Not sure what to do now.... with all the trembles I've been having, something has to be wrong! Not sure what to do now.... Hope your training is going well! Look forward to hearing from you and catching up! *hugs*
Indy--You are a naughty, naughty lurker! lol... Glad to hear your enjoying some traveling with DH! Be safe and well!
fifi--Apparently I SUCK at cooking! I've followed that recipe step by step... either your directions are off, or I I'm a lost cause when it comes to following directions!
YAY for the new thread. Hoping this one brings lots more of the BFP!
Fificlaire- I hope your eyes start to feel better soon.
Mel- Hope your recovery is going well. Has the pain subsided at all?
Jen- Well its good that your BT came back normal, but how disappointing as you still have no answers. Hopefully on this new thread you and I will be posting our BFP's!
Megsmum- Hope your day isn't too busy!
Babymiracles- Good luck on your scan next week. And hold on to the less anxious feeling.
WTH- I hope your feeling better.
Chappas- I hope the m/s subsides soon so you can start to enjoy your pregnancy.
Spreading lots of and for the new thread!
AFM- nothing really new at the moment. AF is leaving and I'm very ready to start TTC! Wish me luck girls!
Shortcake! AF leaving for me, too! Seems as though we're cycle twins! It's dust chucking time: Ready, aim, catch!!!!
Tam--you dirty little lurker! Where are you, girl? Don't be such a stranger--I sure do miss your sassiness! How goes the I need an update since we always miss you on Fri!!
Hey girls not much from me today not feeling to well kinda wish I had my new insure card now because I wanna go to doc because its been a few days I use my two off days to lay around on the sofa watch TV and rest but I still feel a lil off center anyway let's get some more BFP this month girls !!!
I just wanted to thank everyone for their kind thoughts with DS, it's very sweet and I'm so grateful to have found you girls, you've helped me through so much and I couldn't thank you all enough.
Still got the flu and a nasty cough so got tested for whooping cough today as there have been 2 cases at work that I don't have it! Bleeding still going on and off; so annoying. I have a question to ask which may seem really stupid but I've gotta ask, If I'm bleeding but it's not my period can i fall pregnant in between because DH and I have been in between the bleeding I know it's probably a long shot but I just thought I'd check.
Chappas- that's a great sign that there's no bleeding so especially over the next couple of weeks
Shortcake & Jen- lots and lots of for you girls looking out for some good news!!
fificlaire- That recipe sounds awesome, I will keep trying it because I too must be a crap cook, I'm sure we will all be master chefs soon!
Sorry I've not got much to say today Hope everyone has a great day and much love to everyone affected by the devestating fires in victoria
Toccara - Nice to hear from you, sorry you are depressed Hope things start to look up for you soon.
Jen - You musn't be the only lousy cook You would think my days in the deli would come in handy Sorry you didn't get the answers you crave, I know how you feel about needing them. Keep persisting with the Dr's and don't take no for an answer. You know your body better than anybody and if you believe something is wrong then it most likely is. I had this feeling for the last 15 months that something was wrong with me (caused by the m/c) and that's why we were having trouble. But I kept it to myself and didn't insist on any tests and waited 12 months to see a specialist - it doesn't matter now but when I think back to the time we have wasted it makes me mad!
Smi - Hope you feel better soon.
Shortcake and Jen - AF has arrived for me too (yesterday) and should be leaving soon so I might be cycle buddies with you! Let's hope it is our month so we can start this new thread with lots of BFP's!
Chappas - I know you were probably looking forward to a scan and it's a shame you have to wait longer but on the up side at least you know everything must be going well
Fifi - Hope your eyes feel better soon.
Big hi to HannahD, Issy, Indy, WTH, AJC, plc, babymiracles, possums, tam, princess, rachel (where are you?), megsmum, mannie, Theresa, naenae, karenvan, erybery, jackjack, samandpoppy and everyone else I may have missed (hope I mentioned everyone!).
Thanks again for all your get well wishes. I am feeling better everyday. I am still quite sore and tender but that is to be expected. Had a good nights sleep last night so that has helped. Well AF arrived yesterday (I was told I would also have some bleeding for a few days after the op but this is definitely AF). And guess what, for the first time in my life I have hardly had any pain with it. A little bit of cramping and back pain but that is it. Hopefully removing the endo helped. I guess I will really find out next month as this month is a little hard to tell since I am on pretty strong painkillers. Although I am hoping AF will stay away for the next 9 months or so!
Had quite a bit of bleeding (sorry if TMI). Since the m/c I only really had AF for 1-2 days and it wasn't overly heavy so maybe my cycles are finally getting back to normal. I am glad AF arrived though as at least now I know I will be able to start TTC again this month. I thought the op might interfere with my cycle.
Looking forward to the future but a little scared as well. Now I have the answers I have craved and know that there is nothing to really prevent us from getting pregnant I am feeling the pressure (IYKWIM?) DH and I have told ourselves it is just like starting all over again and we don't expect anything to happen straightaway, we told ourselves 6 months when we first started trying so we are thinking the same again.
Anyway sorry to be negative, I am still really happy and know I am so lucky to have some answers as I know so many of you are still looking for them. I you all get the answers you so desperately crave so you can hold your forever babies soon (hopefully by Christmas).
I have to suffered a loss in fact my twins in Aug 08, I went into preterm labour at 20 weeks, it has been a very long road for me in regard to recovering emotionally from it, but it seems to be getting better day by day.
My DH & I have decided that we are going to try to make a another baby, mind you he was dead aganist it and when it was Xmas and onwards to my EDD 6/1/09 I was a mess and he knew how much I wanted to try again.
I am wondering what people will say once we do concieve and tell family, of course we will wait until I am safe and showing.
Ohh Lillangels - soo so sorry for your loss, how terrible. people will say all sorts of things and the ones who love you will try really hard to say the right things. So much good luck for TTC.
smi--Sorry you're feeling crappish today! Hope you feel better tomorrow! Just think: It's going to be Thursday... which means only 1 more day to go 'til Fri!! Then it's a 3-day weekend! Yay for President's Day!
Toccara--Hey sista! Sorry to hear you're feeling unwell! Sending lots of get well and hope you feel better soon!
Mel-- for AF! So happy for you that the op didn't interfere with your chances for this month! You're being given a fresh, new start! Sending lots of for my newest cycle bud!
jackjack--Sorry to hear you're still sick... hope it's not whooping cough! Take care of yourself, and feel better soon!
littleangels-- So sorry for the loss of your angel twins It's tragic enough losing one, but to lose two... it's beyond comprehension! I pray you find comfort, support, and friendship here among us. You're in my thoughts!
jen - I was appalled ready about your 'friend'. You certainly deserve to have better people than that around you. I'm sorry you didn't get any answers from the BT, but at least you know your thyroid is functioning normally. Big sloppy back at ya!
jackjack - I'm so glad your little boy is safe and seems unscathed by the pool incident. I hope your in-laws get the gate fixed now. I hope you get over the flu soon, it sounds pretty nasty.
Mel - I think I said it before, but I'm so glad you are feeling hopeful and inspired again. Enjoy this chance to start over. Its great that AF is going easy on you now. I hope its the beginning of a trend. Or not. Hopefully she you'll get a BFP this cycle so you won't have to know if it was pain free due to the meds or not.
Theresa - I hope you are starting to feel better. Woo hoo for a healthy, strong heartbeat.
Polly - Glad you are feeling at peace. I'm praying you will have your forever baby to share this Christmas with.
chappas - Glad things are well with you. I know it must be frustrating to have to wait for a scan, but as jen said, at least nothing is wrong.
Mannie - Thats fantastic news that your thyroid levels are back to normal. Enjoy the rest of your time on the Gold Coast. Even if it is for work, at least it is a change of scenery.
Shortcake - So glad the meds worked and AF finally showed (even if she was a bit of a b*tch while she was here). Lets hope its her last visit for 9 months.
babymiracles - Sending lots of zen vibes your way. I know its hard, but try not to stress too much. Your levels seem great to me! Goodluck for next week's scan. I can't wait to hear all about that heartbeat.
meh - Glad the UTI is gone. Hopefully you'll have a BFP to report in a few weeks.
WTH - Once again I'd like to say congratulations. I'm so very happy for you.
fifi - I must be a lousy cook too. I'm sure I've been following your recipe for the last 6 months. lol
toccara - Sorry you're not feeling too good at the moment. Goodluck with the new doc (when your insurance card arrives).
megsmum - Sending lots of zen vibes to you too, to help you relax a bit. I'm sure your little one is perfectly fine.
samandpoppy - Goodluck for the upcoming IVF cycle.
naenae - We haven't met before, but welcome back. It looks as though you've had a tough road so far. Goodluck. I hope your TTC journey is short.
Karen van - Yay for a strong heartbeat.
smi - Woo hoo for great NT results. Low risk, huh? Thats what I like to hear.
Indy - Sorry your cycles are messing you around. I can't offer any help but giving you a big
littleangels - I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope your TTC journey is short. I am currently reading "Trying Again" by Ann Douglas. It does discuss if, how and when to tell people you are TTC or pregnant after loss.
AJC, tutmae, jenushka, issy, erybery and anyone I have missed.
My thoughts and prayers are with all those who are facing or have loved ones facing the fires in Victoria. The devastation is beyond comprehension.
Now that the persies are out of the way, its time for a me post.
I'm not sure where to start though.
Last Friday I found out that my brother has also been diagnosed with depression as well as anxiety. I still can't figure out how I feel about that. Mum is expecting us to somehow help each other. I don't think we're there yet. We need to figure out ways to help ourselves first, maybe later on we'll be able to help each other. It also makes me feel kind of hopeless, like the way I feel is predetermined by genetics and nothing can change that.
I can't imagine ever not feeling like this. I'm re-thinking that medication might be the way to go. Apparently they can do a test to determine who is likely to respond to certain anti-depressants. But I know that if I start taking them, I'll fall pregnant and then have to decide whether to continue or not, all the while wondering if they've hurt the baby or not.
On a more positive note, my doctor ordered some blood tests last week. My cholesterol, iron, electrolytes, vitamin D, thyroid function, kidney function and liver function are all perfectly normal. At least there is no physical cause for my depression and I am in physical tip-top shape for pregnancy. Now I just need to sort out my head.
Also, now that I won't be pregnant by my EDD (22/2), I feel a weight has been lifted in tems of TTC. I feel more relaxed about it and that it will happen when it happens. Besides, I obviously have issues I need to deal with.
Well, I think thats me up to date. Thankyou all so much for your thoughts and support. I have been lurking, its just that positivity is hard for me to come by at the moment (which can make posting hard).
Speaking of positivity, my doc gave me some homework this week. I have to do at least one nice thing for myself. Any ideas? What do you do when you want to cheer yourself up?
Toccara- Hopefully your new insurance card comes soon and that you start feeling better.
mel- I'm glad your our new cycle buddy! Hopefully we all get a BFP t his month sending you lots of Babydust!
Littleangels- Welcome! I'm so sorry for the loss of your twins. You have come to the best place. Here you will find the sweetest & most supportive women. May your TTC journey be short and you get your forever baby soon.
HannahD- I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I was on depression meds when I became pregnant. I stopped taking them as soon as I found out. But they did seem to work before I became pregnant with the depression. Maybe take yourself out and get some new outfits or a day at the spa to help relax.
AFM- Nothing new here. Talked to DH last night about TTC. I am very excited and he is a little nervous as he wants this just as bad as I do. That we get to hold our forever baby soon.
HannahD--So sorry to hear your brother has also been dx with depression and anxiety! I think you're right, tho, that you both have to work out your own feelings before you can help each other! It's hard to properly focus on one problem, when you're facing a huge problem of your own that you're tying to wrap your mind around. Only you can determine whether meds are the right path for you... I've had both favorable and unfavorable experiences with them myself. I think that it's great that they now have a test to determine if a person will respond to the treatment! Maybe that's the first step in your decision making process.
I remember telling my DF that I didn't think I would ever be happy until I was pg again... and honestly, I still feel the same way. It's easy for me to become immersed with everyone else's problems here on bb.... it's really the only time that my mind isn't on my own probs! I think with age, it's gotten to the point with me that it's just easier to somehow try to ignore what's going on inside myself... it's like I have to completely cut out any thought process about myself and my feelings. I think that's another reason why I dove into the fundraising at the school... it's the only way that I can keep my mind distracted! If there's ever a time when I'm bored, and don't have anything to do, my mind will wander to the little 4 mo. old that's supposed to be consuming my time... and, I swear... I don't even know how to explain it... it's like nothing else matters, but because I hide it so well, you'd never know it! It's the only way that I can protect myself from myself (if that makes any sense at all!). I'm sorry.... here I was leaving you a post to try to help you feel better, and it ends up being about me! I just wanted you to know that you're not alone... it's truly such a lonely feeling when it feels like nobody understands what you're going thru. The only thing that ever makes me feel better is knowing that I'm doing all I can to help someone else fight the same fight--the battle of a broken heart. To put a smile on someone's face... to brighten their day... to make them realize that they're special and worthy... I didn't know how to do that before--or maybe I was so involved in myself, that it just didn't occur to me that there were people out there that needed it!
For some reason, Hannah, you're on my mind all the time! I worry about you so much! It's ironic that we've never even met... somehow I feel so connected with you and what you're going thru, maybe because you remind me so much of myself, I don't know. I just want you to be happy--and know that you really are happy and you're not just hiding it well! I want to read a post by you, and be able to feel your happiness and excitement emanating thru your words.... I know one day soon you'll be announcing your BFP to us--and honestly, I'd pay God to give you your forever angel before he gives me mine! Your happiness has become my goal!
I'm sorry that your EDD is coming up... it's tough, I know. My anniversary for my m/c is Mar. 5 (the day before my b-day). I've decided in honor of my little angel I'm going to do something that I never in a million years thought anyone could get me to do: I'm going to do a tandem skydive! I'm going to soar above the clouds with my angels! I'm slightly anxious, but I think it will be liberating somehow... hopefully I won't end up like my MIL!
I'm thrilled that your dr. asked you to do something nice for yourself! It's about time--you deserve it! Retail therapy always works well in cheering me up... but you know, Shortcake mentioned a spa... or maybe a massage--I've never done either--but I've heard it's amazing! Take care of yourself, hon, and please don't feel like you can't post if you don't have anything positive to say! We're here for you whether you're happy or sad--that's what friends are for!
Sorry for such a super long post! Will be back later for the rest of persies--that took a little longer than expected, and now I have to get DS ready for school!
Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss -February 2009
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to all you ladies, especially to those in Vic (hope your all ok)
to Megsmum, Eryberry, Hannah,Fifi,Ajc,Plc,Toccara,Wth,Mannie,Jackjack,Sa mandpoppy,Indy and everyone else i have not mentioned. Thinking of you all ,hope you are all well.
for the new thread!!
Shortcake! AF leaving for me, too!
Seems as though we're cycle twins! It's dust chucking time: Ready, aim, catch!!!!
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I need an update since we always miss you on Fri!!
for a BFP for us both. Chucking lots of
especially over the next couple of weeks
You would think my days in the deli would come in handy
Hope you feel better tomorrow! Just think: It's going to be Thursday... which means only 1 more day to go 'til Fri!! Then it's a 3-day weekend!
Yay for President's Day!
So sorry for the loss of your angel twins
It's tragic enough losing one, but to lose two... it's beyond comprehension! I pray you find comfort, support, and friendship here among us. You're in my thoughts!
I'm slightly anxious, but I think it will be liberating somehow... hopefully I won't end up like my MIL!
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