I just don't understand why brides do this - or perhaps I do - they want to look the best on the day - so if you got ugly knees and wobby arms, all the better for her!!!
Seriously though, I've been to weddings where the bride was flexible and chose styles that suited her girls, I've been to weddings where they chose fashion over what suited and still have visions of the stretch marks on the roll hanging over the top of a very tight strapless gown on one of the bridesmaids which clearly didn't suit her shape. I mean the girl couldn't help that but someone with sense should've said something about a more suitable dress - might add these weren't off the rack but custom made dresses too.
I also work with someone who was bridesmaid to a bridezilla in Feb - which is not that long ago - and she has fallen out via text message with the bride too. She is kicking herself for ever agreeing to it to begin with.
To me, you should be able to look back at those photos in 25 years and still have fond memories and hopefully a friendship with that person - a dress is just not worth it.
This is why I had no bridesmaids...just two flowergirls (my nieces) who were perfect...I figured that as I was in my 30's that my friends deserved to enjoy the day, not have responsibilites and NOT have to wear matching dresses! Turned out it was the best decision I ever made. I was a adult when I got married and I could handle the day on my own.......don't worry....it still had some hiccups like my father and I argueing about whether or not I should take my mobile.....I took it....funny to look back now and laugh but at the time I did bite my tounge quite a bit.
Sorry to seem like I'm hijacking ......I'm not.....I think your approach has been fine so far. But if you do want the friendship to continue then be honest with her. You will not forgive yourself later on.....far easier to forgive your friend that forgive yourself!
Aaah that sucks. Your message to her was put perfectly, without any offence or accusations, just simple honesty. Well done on that.
I'm sorry that you received such a nasty slap in the face by her reply. How awful. At least you walk out of this freindship with integrity and a knowledge that you couldn't have done anything nicer and more loving than you did to salvage it.
Hope you don't dwell on all the nasty feelings you must have at the moment. Go get your hubby to buy some chocolate for you hey?!
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