My big birthday, time for new hair.

[Willow]

I agree, take some of the length off to just below the shoulders, get some shorter layers cut in and maybe for a change, get a semi permanent colour (this will just wash and fade out over time) or some foils if you can manage the up keep.

I *personally* think that really long hair can be quite aging, so I keep mine about shoulder length these days with lots of layers.

Go for it, it's only hair and if you don't like it, it'll grow back. With a new 'do you'll feel like a new woman.

[angelaartsstudent]

You could go for dreadlocks like me :-P

It would give people a bit of a surprise and you can enjoy being stereotyped as a dirty, tree-hugging, pot smoking, dole bludging hippy...not!

On the upside though you don't have to brush them...but when washing need to blow dry every time - in winter anyway.

LOL

I agree maybe have a go going short(er). It feels quite liberating having the weight literally taken off your shoulders.

[Netix]

I am leaning towards the styling the lovely GG suggested, with a colour as recommended by Willow. Maybe I will build myself up to having shorter hair over time (although, have been thinking about it for years, so far, unsuccessfully). I think also that I will get my friend who is a hairdresser to cut it (and ask her how much she would charge to colour, or get my Mum to do it). I have been the last few times to another hairdresser (don't get me wrong, she seems to do a good job), but I would rather pay my friend, and I think she would probably know a bit better as to what suits me, iykwim.

Ha, I thought of having dreads when I was a teen! Lol, thanks Amanda! I think I was starting to get a bit serious in thought!

Thanks girls.

[DaintreeDream]

I know just what you mean, until Christmas last year my hair had always been down to my bum, straight and in a pony every day, I would get layers but really you could not tell, so at Christmas I got it chopped half way up my back and a layered with a sweep across kind of fringe and I loved it BUT once I had done that I wanted it shorter. I got married in Feb and so I didn't want to cut it to short before then but now I am desperate to get it cut to sit on my shoulders and re-cut my fringe so it sweeps across, it has kind of grown out again.

At the moment I am loving having my natural hair colour which is just brown but I used to get a 1/4 head of 2 different colour blonde foils which just added some colour and highlights and really liked it.

Anyway, good luck, I know where you are coming from, just wanted to ket you know that I too was stuck in the 'you have such beautiful long hair' trap and went against everyone and cut it and LOVE it!

[smiles4u]

I too agree with Willow

... I have met many guys say they 'don't' find woman with short hair attractive (sorry girl's with short hair that's not me saying but the guy's ) ... an interesting comment i thought !!

For my 40th i had my usually curly hair straighten which made my then blonde hair look even more blonder ... It made for great conversation for the night as friends i'd known for decades had never seen me with straight hair ... So, on that note i say certainly GO for a really different look

[Willow]

I have met many guys say they 'don't' find woman with short hair attractive

My DH is one of these And I kept it long for a long time, partly for him. Eventually, I got over it and cut it the way I wanted to.

But I don't regret having it shorter now at all. It's so easy to get stuck in the rut of it as Daintree said, but I almost guarantee that after cutting it, you'll feel fabulous!

[Turkish Delight]

Hey Netix,

congrats on your upcoming birthday hun.

I thought i could never do a really short "do" but i have. For 99% of my life, my hair has been soooo long (down to my bum). I would only ever get a trim. I always had it plaited, in a pony tail at the back or up in a bun. I also have very, very thick hair. It was sooo heavy and hot.

November 2007, i decided that was it. DH was complaining that he was finding strands of hair everywhere. I went to a new hairdresser and told them to cut it off. Just cut it off. They cut it into a messy bob style and i had highlights in my hair (my previous avatar style) and i loved it. It was sooo easy to take care of it etc.. In July 2008, I wanted a different style, something shorter than the bob. I had a picture of what i wanted and showed the new hairdresser (another one). She cut it SO NOT the photo i had taken in. My hair was shorter than my DHs. I was freaking out. I hated it. I looked like a boy. DH, my DS and mum and dad all ridiculed me.

June 2009, i still have the same haircut. I love it. I tell my hairdresser, (who i love) to cut it as short as she can! The hair on my new avvy is long for what i have!

If you want to go drastic, take it slowly. It's great to be a new you and with an upcoming birthday what a fantastic opportunity.

Men who hate short hair on women