Oh yes you are just like I was a few months ago!! Firstly DITCH the wipes and go cloth wipes. I used facewashers at first and then moved onto proper cloth wipes from shops (I know Maz stocks some pretty groooovy ones). It didn't matter WHAT wipes I used, my fingers would crack and my goshness it hurts soooo bad
This was the big one for me, finding out the cause. I thought it was the washing up but then realised it wasn't because I started using gloves and it was still happening... turned out to be the following combo...

Latex... get the Chux gloves, they are purple and are lined and the BEST (yes I have tried them all)
SLS, it's in everything, shampoo, soap etc. It is the foaming agent (I think) but Pantene doesn't have it!! Since then it's been a lot better.
Also wear gloves to hang out the wet washing!
Oh and moisturise 2 times a day Doing it more ended up with my skin NEEDING more moisturiser so it ended up being detrimental. I would moisturise all day and when I stopped CRAAACK ouchie!!

Good luck. If you have no luck with that there is a cream you can get, Diprosone OV, I used it a couple of times and it clears it up straight away if I find I can't get rid of it.

I know you pain!