yes shellbell, she is very upset by the hair on her legs, it is very dark and very hairy, 2 yrs ago, a not so nice girl made a comment that the hairs on her arms were too dark, so my dd attempted to shave them with a razer, it resulted in her cutting her arm a lil bit.
We have had many a night asking to remove the hair, hence why i droped the age from 15 to 12, and now am considering 9!
My hubbys estranged father is hungarian, so i think thats where the dark hair comes from?
i will definatly leave the hair foils till she is much older.
I would do it then if its upsetting her then, I remember well the teasing from school. I know its young but I'd prefer to do it if she is unhappy by it.
All three of my girls have started shaving their legs at 11 1/2 and were able to experience having a few foils put in. I believe in choosing battles and shaving legs is definately not one of them.
DD1 (although only 4) is also very dark and hairy so this is something that I do think will be an issue for us going forward as well. I shaved my own legs when I was about 11 and regret it so I would definitely be talking to her earlier on and discussing waxing etc to remove the hair if it is upsetting her.
The hair would be a different issue though and I do think 9 is too young. I was allowed to dye my own hair when I could pay for it - so at 14 when I got an after school job, I took myself off to the hairdresser
It's always difficult Anila & I think it's wonderful that you are seeking out some help to form your opinion...
Personally 9 to dye her hair is absolutely a no go zone! I believe that we shorten childhood too much now days... She has the rest of her life to dye her hair & let her look forward to doing that.
I also think 9 is too young to shave/wax. However, I am blonde with hardly any hair so I cannot know how it would feel for her. I would try & stretch it out a little longer. I also would perhaps try a different tack? That we humans grow hair & it's normal to have some - that when you reach puberty it can get thicker & then as a young Woman she can decide if she feels comfortable with her hair or not. Then there are methods of removal - waxing is by far superior to shaving... (I have never shaved always waxed)...
It's difficult if she is conscious of how much hair she has but perhaps trying to help her see that we are all different & she is beautiful with or without hair? Good luck
my mum made me wait until I was in high school (13), I had thick blond hair. Very self conscious about it. She took me to a beauty salon one evening (it was dusk - lol I remember!) and got them waxed. Only the bottom half though. I think she wanted me to have them waxed everytime. She was very disappointed when I found her razor and dug a great big hole in my shin.
Just a thought, could you try bleaching the hair on her arms and legs? I've used those bleaches before and they're pretty gentle... Might be a good interim alternative for a little while... GL
I recently tipped Dudies hair, seems puberty has started early for him and he's quit mature in many ways ect. He turns 10 in July and is getting very concious of how he looks ect. I really dont mind.....its only hair and it will grow out.
Dee I love, love LOVE how you have made a 'deal' with your DD in regards to getting her legs waxed. I think that is awesome.
I wasnt allowed to dye, pierce, wax me legs...let alone breath half the time. It pushed me away with the control issues in my house and put a bigger wedge in my relationship at the time with my parents and I left home at 15 with a bad taste in my mouth. I dont want my own children doing the same. I think we need to listen and trust our children sometime with what they would like to look like and let them express themselves and allow them to develope into the person that they have stashed inside, even if we dont like it.
Anila...your a wonderful mum for doing the 'research' and trying to do the best. well done hon
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well done hon
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