DD1 (although only 4) is also very dark and hairy so this is something that I do think will be an issue for us going forward as well. I shaved my own legs when I was about 11 and regret it so I would definitely be talking to her earlier on and discussing waxing etc to remove the hair if it is upsetting her.

The hair would be a different issue though and I do think 9 is too young. I was allowed to dye my own hair when I could pay for it - so at 14 when I got an after school job, I took myself off to the hairdresser