Asked to be at the birth

[Winter]

Dianne.

[Spring Angel]

Judt an ideas babe. Could you call Sids and Kids or the stillbirth foundation and see if they have any women who have birthed angels who could attend to support her? Obviously it is totally up to the mother but it might be worth asking.

[sirenz]

Dianne, no matter what you choose to do, plz be proud of yourself for helping this total stranger. I can't even begin to imagine how hard it would be to talk to a complete stranger about how you felt and to tell them what they are about to go thru, meanwhile you relive the whole thing again.

Don't be angry, you don't have to try and be strong right now, because you already are. You gave birth to a beautiful angel baby and now you are helping a complete stranger do the same. Can't get any stronger than that hun!

I just wanted to say, this lady would surely appreciate any help you have already given her and her dh and I am so sure she would understand completely why you can't attend the actual birth of her angel, so please don't feel bad.

I'm sending big hugs to you, as I can only imagine what you are going thru.

[Epacris]

Oh darling Dianne, my heart goes out to you, sending you calm and warmth. Please allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel, but please don't be so hard on yourself. You are an amazing, loving person, please know that. Thinking of you and your angel Emmanuel. More hugs.

Rachel.

[Ryatha]

lots of hugs hun it is a lovely thing you want to do but you need to look after yourself and family as well.

[Mummato2]

more big

[diannescruffy]

Spring Angel thank you, I have for a while been wanting to be able to support women going through a stillbirth and actually wanted to contact the hospital to see if something like this could be possible. I think that is why I'm so angry because now that I have the chance I'm not sure if I could go through with it and if I don't do this for her I honestly think I would feel even worse. It's just so hard when you feel someone else's pain and know there is nothing you can do to take it away. As skeetaboat said I can't save her from her agony, that is so true, she needs to feel the pain and grieve to be able to heal. So as Nelle suggested I think I might have some counselling and deal with these emotions and just maybe I can be there for the birth too because that is what I really want to do. You girls gave me so much to think about and I actually feel better, your support means so much, thanks.

Regards,
Dianne

[Kazbah]

Ahhh Dianne, to say that you aren't coping is so hard on yourself ... please remember that it takes each person a different way to grieve. I think for you or anyone else to wonder if they'll be "over this" is so hard. You're a strong woman to even take the phone call from the midwife to support this lady, and to go ahead even more so. Please be kind to yourself. I think that seeing a counsellor is a great step, and if being present at the birth helps you, then that's great if it also helps the other lady.

Be kind to yourself *hug* ... and may Emmanuel help you from his place of peace.

[Fleur]

Dianne

[Mad Scientist]

Anger is part of grief Dianne. Please let yourself feel whatever it is you need to feel. Do what you feel you can but no more. The most important person right now is you. I'm sorry that you are in this position but I also see how it can be helpful. But please let yourself deal with this how you feel is the best for you xx

[skeetaboat]

Maybe this was sent your way to let you know the things you need to deal with/process in order to get to a place where you are able to help other mummas birthing angels. It really hasn't been long for you. Give yourself time and don't put unreasonable expectations on yourself. Whatever support you can offer this mumma will be very greatly appreciated and make a world of difference to her, I'm sure.

[BrightSparkles]

hun xxx

[Spring Angel]

Oh Hun, it's such an internal struggle.

Big understanding cuddles

[Pandora]

Thinking of you Dianne.