Honey, just do what is right for you.. I didn't have other kids to look after, so I did pretty much nothing but grieve, cry and trawl the internet.. I did give my self a 6 month time limit, when they 1st died.. And by the time 6months rolled around, I was ready to get out of the house..

When I was pregnant I was working in call centre, and didn't want to go back after they died. I had planned to do family day care with the twins, but after they died that didn't feel right either.. So I enrolled in my cert 3 aged care, which then led to my diploma course which I am now almost finished! Anyway, that was right for me. I had my time to do nothing and then just set myself little goals.. The aged care course was only 3 days a week, and I knew I could drop out if I couldn't cope..

Anyway, enough about me, sorry about crapping on a bit, I guess I am just trying to explain my experience.. To sum it up though, no one can tell you when you are ready. Maybe try and get a job, but don't pressure yourself. If you get one and can cope great, if not, quit.. Just take it slow.. It's great your DP is supportive..