Oh MB, I really feel for your friend, and for you too as it must be so hard to see your friend going through such a terrible and tragic experience. As you know I've lost my little one at 21 weeks back in 2008, and it was hell. I wish my friends and family brought me meals and helped me with house work, but they didn't and most didn't know what to do/say to me so I mainly got phone calls every now and then. Lucky for me I have the most amazing DF who did all the house work, and fed me when I didn't want to look at food. It's just that he was grieving too, and it would have been nice for him to have some help too.
Inanna's response was fantastic, I nodded to everything she wrote, especially about acknowledging the baby's birth as that is so very important. Most of all be there for her when she needs you, and encourage her to speak about her baby. When I lost Josh, most people were scared to bring him up. I felt like he never existed and he did! Big hugs hun, I know you'll provide your friend with plenty of support, and believe me she will need it. As for being pg, don't feel guilty hun. You are feeling guilt b/c you still have your lil one and she's lost hers. Just appreciate your little bub and consider how lucky you are.
Big big hugs sweets x