I did think about asking you Beata, but didnt want you to feel like I was being intrusive- so just posted here, so whoever felt like they could answer, and give advice, could.
I guess I understand why people only phoned you when you lost your little one- I really want to give that support to my friends, but at the same time, I am feeling that fear of bringing him up... and not knowing what to say! I will have to find out first if they are comfortable having me there (although, my Mum was there yesterday and said that the mother was asking about me and the baby - so it might be ok) and then I will do some groceries for them or take them some meals.


I was thinking about the father of the baby before- as I had found this amazing piece of jewellery I could get for my friend as a rememberance item... I know he is suffering just as much as she is though, and if I am to get them a gift, I want it to be something that includes him aswell.

Will know the funeral details today... its going to be a very difficult experience, I think... for everyone.