How could she be so nasty?

[Miss.B]

Oh Dianne, I'm so sorry you've had to hear that awful comment from your SIL . Obviously she has no idea (I'm guessing she hasn't lost a baby). Big hugs to you and know that there is a small number of stupid, ignorant and obviously 'foot in the mouth' people out there, but you know that your little boy is perfect, and he always will be, no matter what other people might think/say.

[thepixie]

have to bite my tongue - my thoughts on someone who would say that to you are not fit to print!

your little boy is perfect, and he always will be, no matter what other people might think/say.

beata said it perfectly.
to you and you're a sweet mummy to create such a precious memorial to your beautiful boy.

[skeetaboat]

Is she 12 years old or something? That sounds like such a stupid, immature thing to say. Why on earth would anyone think that your beautiful little baby could be anything to feel ashamed of?? I just don't understand. It sounds like she's not right in the head to me.

What a lovely memorial to have made up. xxxx

[tippytoes]

Oh that is the most thoughtless, hurtful thing to say. Of course he is perfect and he is your precious little guy. Sending you lots of . I would have been furious and let her know about it..grrrr. You did well to control yourself.
Rach xx

[Queen]

How heartless, she is obviously jealous of your perfect angel boy!

I am sorry for your loss and sorry your SIL is not more supportive

[diannescruffy]

Thank you all for your lovely supportive words. I will continue to have his frame hanging proudly in the lounge and as someone said she is the one who should be embarassed. Pitty she is family because if it was a friend I would have told her to leave my house and never come back.

Regards,
Dianne

[Traveller]

Your tribute to your son sounds beautiful Dianne. I am so sorry you were upset like this by someone who should know better. Be strong

T
xx

[smiles4u]

Dianne, i told my DP about your thread in what your SIL said and he said just as you did ... that he would ask her to leave and never come back, but yes it's a hard position to be in when it's family as you have obviously worked out with your actions that it would only make the situation worse and YOU have been through more than enough heartache to deal with anymore !!

(i'm so sorry to say Dianne but i do think there is a hint of sick jealously like member Queen mentioned before ... For your SIL to say something so incredibly hurtful, ... it's such an ugly, ugly side of a human being ... You just be very aware of her now and if & when you do ' have ' to speak to her just be yourself and nothing less ... but that doesn't mean you have to be warm towards her, YEH stick that up her jumper !!! )

[Shanti]

how awful... what an awful thing to say to a mother about her child... I'm so sorry she was so disgustingly rude and tactless towards you. What a not-so-nice person she is.

you deserve a HUGE apology from her. I would understand if you never spoke to her again for saying that.....that is just a horrific thing to say to someone. (regardless of if the child is passed away or alive).

Stand proud because you have every right to be

[Trillian]

Far out! I can't believe she actually said something like that to you. I hope she never has the apparent misfortune to have a child who is less than perfect in a physical sense because to say something like that is just so shallow. Emmanuel was perfect and you should be showing him off to everyone who comes to your home

[~clover~]

My MIL proudly has the photo's of her DS Thomas (lost him to trisomy 13 also) on her wall with everyone having turns holding him. He's wrapped in a blanket, so you can't see much, but its there. He was her baby & she/they thought he was beautiful no matter what was visibly wrong with him.

She also lost a baby before him to SIDS, but only has one photo up of him as it was unexpected & its the only photo she has. She's so greatful she got the chance to get photo's of Thomas.

I'm sure its beautiful xx

[blessedatlast]

Oh Dianne, what an awful thing for someone to say! Of course you should have the picture up! for you.

[Samcougar]

How thoughtless and ignorant of this person who is supposed to be family!! I cant believe the nerve of some people!! People just open their mouths before they think.
I'm sorry she said this to you, your little man I’m sure is perfect. Big hugs hun please don't take any notice of that half wit!

[fourthontheway]

My son was 28w stillborn and I know some people don't like to see him either, but that's their problem, not mine.

I'm so sorry your sil said such a hurtful thing to you, lots of love to you xxxx