It must be so hard for you.

I think she's either selfish or she just doesn't know what to say. Could you perhaps bring it up in conversation when you go dress shopping?
yeh i kind of want to, but given that she's pregnant as well, i just don't know how to broach the subject without it sounding bad. and then i feel like she would get distant and not say anything to me about her baby, i don't know......seriously she's such a brainy girl i don't understand how she can be so clueless and just not willing to 'go there' when it's obviously hugely significant to me.....