Sweetie, I'm sorry your friend is behaving this way My guess is that she avoids talking about your son Josiah as she doesn't know how to deal with the loss/grief you're going through. Especially now that she's preggo AND expecting a boy, she probably thinks that you might get upset. My own brother (I only have one and he's my only sibling) never acknowledged Joshua's passing. EVER. Not a 'sorry', or 'I don't know what to say' or whatever. I couldn't look at him for months and then forgave him as I guessed he didn't know how to deal with it. My SIL later told me that he told her that he didn't say anything because he didn't know what to say.