I am really sorry for your loss of Elena. I know the fisrt couple of weeks are the longest and hardest to get through. I hope you have a lot of support to help you.
My husband would not have been keen either at first but as time has gone on I think it is something that we could both can handle alot better know then back in February.
I think making a flower crown is a beautiful idea.
I am still changing my mind about what to do and what I want the day to be like.
best of luck
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I think the balloon idea is really very lovely way to say farewell in a public way. Facing people will always be a difficult thing but it does get easier over time. The hard days get further apart though your heart always feels heavy.
I am sure you will discover your own special thing to do in memory of Maddison.
For us, we didn't comemerate Nikita's due date as anything special. I felt that she came just as she was meant to therefore her due date was not significant to me, though I did light a candle.
When she died, we had a memorial service at a church and ashes scattering at home and that was our farewell. I also built her a memorial garden with flowers that bloom year round so that every day I see the garden I see the beauty and remember how beautiful and precious Nikita's life was to us.
This year for her first birthday Dh and I celebrated with a special roast dinner (only done for special occaions) and I scattered a few flower seeds that were sent by another BB member on her angelversary.
Maybe you could plant a special plant or a garden for her?
Thank you very much.
She was my angel and i was very distraught when i heard she had no heart beat.
But anyway, yes Elena's dad was never to fond of her from the day i told him i was pregnant. A lot of stress came with it when i told him i decided to keep the baby. He had moved on and tried not being involved but its rather hard when his dad and mother wanted everything to do with the baby.
A flower crown just popped into my head when i had thought about something special to do with her.. She was very special to me.
But that's also happening with me is changing my mind.
A special garden does sound wonderful.. The only thing is with doing something for Elena around my mother isn't all that great. I'm just another case of teen pregnancy and my mother never really ever approved of the fact.
So its like i have to do it in secret. =/
hmmm all the above ideas are really worth while but i really feel relaxed and good when i do some charity to orphan age i really feel blessed as if all my problems are gone ............hope t will help you to
Thank you.
That is good advice so thank you very much.
October 15th is growing more and more near and its like everyday is a struggle so I find a little comfort in planning Elena's memorial.
I hope I feel more at ease when her memorial comes.
On sept. 23rd 2008 we lost our baby. I can't believe that it has been a year. I am kinda like the most of you I want to honor my baby angel so I am trying to come up with some ideas on how to do that. I was only 14 and half weeks but still I lost my child. Did not get to have a funeral or memoral service so I do want to do something in memory of my baby. I was thinking that I would plant a tree and tie a blue and pink ribbion on it. and release some blue and pink balloons with a note on them. I don't know any ideas?
I am like NaeNae we didn't celebrate Katy's due date for us her birthdate was a day for celebration conteplation etc... and still is 6 years on
anyway I have friends who have doen balloon releases and it is majical... I dont know about formal invites etc, but maybe a informal gathering at a beach or somewhere special for your family... light candles do a balloon release Write your little ones name in the sand ...
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