Looking for memorial ideas??

[mummytogirls]

After we lost Maddison we never had a funeral or memorial. I just couldn't bear to face anyone.
I have been thinking of having a Memorial for Maddison's due Date in July.

Maybe having an open house ??
Having a balloon release?
Having printed invitations sent out??

Not really sure. A friend asked me "what happens if on the day you realise I can't do it.?? "
Would it be ok to cancel at the last minute?

Wondering what other families have done. Did you celebrate your EDD ??
Is it worth doing if it just upsets me on the day ?

any ideas would be great

Thanks

[maz]

WE were honoured and blessed to be invited to a fellow BB member's memorial for her baby boy in April.

It was just a backyard BBQ and it felt like a kids party....comfortable, happy and inviting. Yes, I wont lie there was some crying and emotion but we were there to celebrate his birth rather then morn him.

Lots of girls chipped him and we bought balloon's with a little note attatched to the bottom and 5 sunflower seeds for the person who found the balloon to plant. The balloons were different shades of blue and white and come one what birthday party isnt complete with balloon's

Mum and Dad had a special one...a red one just for them. EVERYONE at the party released their balloons at the same time....it was such an enlightening thing, all of us standing there watching these balloon's floating away...spreading his joy over the world.

As much as his mum would have been crying inside and out, she held a smile on her face and I hope that by allowing us to celebrate his birth with her it helped give her the comfort and love that she needed then.

ETA and she had a reply from one of the finders of the balloon's which made the day even more magical.

[mummytogirls]

Thanks Maz

I thinks that is what I needed to hear.

xx
Rachel

[*Bree-Ana*]

My name is Briana,
I recently lost my baby girl Elena.
I was thinking about having a memorial service or something like it on her due date.
October 15th, 2009.
But the father doesn't want to be involved nor does he want Elena's grandparents or anyone either.
I was planning on making a flower crown out of marigolds being the month flower for October on the lake at sunset.
Also, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness is on October 15th so i'm also lighting a candle at 7pm here..
I'm considering like that not formal invites to the people i want there.
But its not going to be big..

Let me know
Briana

[mummytogirls]

Hi briana

I am really sorry for your loss of Elena. I know the fisrt couple of weeks are the longest and hardest to get through. I hope you have a lot of support to help you.
My husband would not have been keen either at first but as time has gone on I think it is something that we could both can handle alot better know then back in February.

I think making a flower crown is a beautiful idea.

I am still changing my mind about what to do and what I want the day to be like.

best of luck

If you ever need a chat there are so many wonderful girls online.

Rachel

[NaeNae]

I think the balloon idea is really very lovely way to say farewell in a public way. Facing people will always be a difficult thing but it does get easier over time. The hard days get further apart though your heart always feels heavy.

I am sure you will discover your own special thing to do in memory of Maddison.

For us, we didn't comemerate Nikita's due date as anything special. I felt that she came just as she was meant to therefore her due date was not significant to me, though I did light a candle.

When she died, we had a memorial service at a church and ashes scattering at home and that was our farewell. I also built her a memorial garden with flowers that bloom year round so that every day I see the garden I see the beauty and remember how beautiful and precious Nikita's life was to us.

This year for her first birthday Dh and I celebrated with a special roast dinner (only done for special occaions) and I scattered a few flower seeds that were sent by another BB member on her angelversary.

Maybe you could plant a special plant or a garden for her?


Nae x x

[tillygrace]

Hi Briana
I'm so sorry you lost your little Elena. It must be really tough for you knowing her father and your mum aren't being a great support to you. You need all the help you can get so if Elena's grandparents are there for you, make sure you let them help you.
We lost Matilda 10 weeks ago at 20 weeks. Her due date is Nov 18. I'm thinking of going down to the beach at sunset, writing her name in the sand and releasing some balloons for her. We're also going to plant Tilly's garden when we move to our new house next year. I'm constantly trying to think of ways to remember her by.
I love your flower crown idea. She's a very lucky girl to have such a creative mum.
I hope your getting love and support from your loved ones
Tilly's mum X

My name is Briana,
I recently lost my baby girl Elena.
I was thinking about having a memorial service or something like it on her due date.
October 15th, 2009.
But the father doesn't want to be involved nor does he want Elena's grandparents or anyone either.
I was planning on making a flower crown out of marigolds being the month flower for October on the lake at sunset.
Also, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness is on October 15th so i'm also lighting a candle at 7pm here..
I'm considering like that not formal invites to the people i want there.
But its not going to be big..

Let me know
Briana

[*Bree-Ana*]

Thank you.
And I'm very sorry for lose as well.
I've been thinking about it non-stop about what I'm doing to do.
But I don't really think I want to do anything so much.
Like I was thinking going down to the lake front and sitting in a circle of candles and a bundle of flowers or the flower crown but haven't decided what kind yet or in general.
And people who want to come are more then welcome.
But its more for me then friends or anyone.
But yeah.
Its just so hard when I think about it.
With October nearing its a sad and scary thought.

*Bree-Ana*