My Angel

[dory]

My dearest blossom, I am so sorry your little daughter was born too soon and that you are now left so heartbroken.

For me, the heartache remains, but I am much better at managing it. So if I am a good example, "it" the dark, lonely, gut wrenching anguish filled times do pass, to be replaced by an enduring sadness, which is much less debilitating and I am told, for some eventually hope.

My best advice, which is not new, is be gentle on yourself. It's hard to know what that means when everything hurts so much,and nothing makes sense. For everyone it will be different. For me it meant - allowing myself to grieve the loss of my babies and also the interruption of my parenting dream and not placing expectations on myself and accepting the hardest days with the less tough days. It also meant making deliberate decisions to surround myself with people who were supportive and didn't place expectations on me. It also meant seeking help when I needed it - via forums, grief and loss support groups and counseling.

It also meant taking it one moment at a time. Give yourself time to heal,at 5 weeks everything is just so raw, even though at times it feels like an eternity.

Go gently precious one and look after yourself.

[Gigi1]

I am so very sorry for you and your DH losing precious Amani. It is a devastating journey and you will never get over it hun. I am told you just learn to live with it. I can only vouch for a portion of that as I am 7 months on and still completely devastated. We all go through this differently and you can be assured that each of us have a very normal and horrible journey to share. Sweety be kind to yourself and go day to day until you can handle more. If you ever need to talk, don;'t hesitate. For me I am not sure that in my circumstance everything had fully hit me at 5 weeks. Again we are all different and the shock of losing your little one is unbearable.
Take care hun and be kind to yoruself.
Love HM xx

[Queen]

I am so sorry hun
Just allow yourself time to grieve, and there is no time frame for grief.
No more advise sorry

[Laney]

I am so sorry to read about your loss.
There is not a day that I don't think about my angels. It does get a little easier with time but the pain does not go away.

[murraycod]

Darling I can't even imagine the greif you are in, I can only wish you and your family plenty of love and support. Take care XXX