My dearest blossom, I am so sorry your little daughter was born too soon and that you are now left so heartbroken.

For me, the heartache remains, but I am much better at managing it. So if I am a good example, "it" the dark, lonely, gut wrenching anguish filled times do pass, to be replaced by an enduring sadness, which is much less debilitating and I am told, for some eventually hope.

My best advice, which is not new, is be gentle on yourself. It's hard to know what that means when everything hurts so much,and nothing makes sense. For everyone it will be different. For me it meant - allowing myself to grieve the loss of my babies and also the interruption of my parenting dream and not placing expectations on myself and accepting the hardest days with the less tough days. It also meant making deliberate decisions to surround myself with people who were supportive and didn't place expectations on me. It also meant seeking help when I needed it - via forums, grief and loss support groups and counseling.

It also meant taking it one moment at a time. Give yourself time to heal,at 5 weeks everything is just so raw, even though at times it feels like an eternity.

Go gently precious one and look after yourself.