What helped most?

[MumtoA]

Definitely do not ignore what has happened. Offer sympathy and ask how she is feeling. I want people to talk about dd2 using her name (she was rcently born sleeping at 39 weeks). I don't know if this is for everyone but I like to talk about her birth and what happened in be lead up and afterwards. I like it when people ask how my dh is cos they tend to get forgotten and I especially like it when people recognise that she is my second and that my next will be my third. I also love it when people ask to see her photo cos it is really unexpected and shows that people saw her as a real person and are not scared or the fact that she was sleeping. Hope this helps a little bit. Xo

Also, in my opinion, it definitely doesn't make it harder when people talk about it...it's much harder when they don't. It's really nice of you to be so considerate and thoughtful about all of this, she will really appreciate it I am sure