Sex after vasectomy

[PumpkinZulu]

I don't know a whole lot about vasectomies, but could it be psychological more than physical?

[Miss.September]

Is he interested before you start? DH's surgeon told him it's not unusual for men to be completely off the idea for a while, but that it's temporary. Could it be that he's just not feeling like it so he's not getting a full sensation?

[Snacks]

How long has it been since the surgery?
DH treaded very carefully after his for the first couple of months because he's not the best with blood/cuts/surgery that sort of thing and, lets face it, it's a pretty sensitive area to see stitches in! Immediately post operatively he had a couple of faints too, so that didn't help his confidence.
After a while though we found the increased 'freedom' really liberating and the sex was much better post vasectomy. (Particularly after he'd gotten the 3-month all-clear from the surgeon.)
It really shouldn't make a difference in terms of 'build-up' physiologically, I'd've thought. He is still producing ejaculate and should still be ejaculating normally. Just without sperm. I would wonder too if it's a little bit psychological, if not in the same way as my DH was initially then maybe in another way?

ETA: possible nerve damage isn't necessarily permanent, though that would be very disappointing!

[Trillian]

Dh wasn't exactly like that - he still had moment of soreness for probably the first 2 months and they would ache afterwards, but it didn't lessen his desire or ability to climax. It wasn't long after that and it was back to normal.

[BellyBelly]

Its not desire or ability... its purely sensation based. Normally before an ejaculation there is that build-up, rush, tingle whatever you want to call it - intensity. But he doesn't get that any more, its more the motions of it happening with less feeling for him.

[Trillian]

Maybe that might be something that will improve over time? Or is he able to really take the time to build up to a climax?

[willow5]

My XH didn't have any issues like that sorry he said it was no different. I hope it improves for him.

[AnyDream]

Sorry, I can't comment on the vasectomy-specific side of things, but my experience with surgery involving a larger body area is that the nerves can and do grow back. I'm pretty sure that healing effect would be more noticeable for a vasectomy where the incisions are comparatively small and the area enjoys a good blood supply. But by all means, get him to talk to the urologist for reassurance, especially if he's still having some pain at times. But it may just be a case of needing longer to recover. Surgery is *always* an assault on the body.

PS - as a believer in energetic-medicine, I'm inclined to comment that surgery can disrupt the energetic anatomy too. Remedial energetic strategies could involve reiki or similar, yoga/chi kung/tantric breathing exercises, and even acupuncture/acupressure. HTH