DH had it done within six months of number 2 - we knew two was it for us so was easy decision but we are mid 30's. If we had been 10 years younger I would have been against it because I have got relatives and worked with many men who had it done only to then end up no longer being with the partner they made that decision with and having a new partner and wanting something different. You don't mention whether there are any reasons you don't want to use other contraceptive methods - those reasons would come into a decision for me. In your shoes I would park the decision a couple of years and review - if both still want and not wavering after two years then would go ahead. I do also think stage in relationship comes into it, not just age and would also prob say to someone mid 30's only in a relationship for a couple of years to perhaps think about it a little longer.
We knew when Moo was a year old we wanted just one more child, after that we always said DH would get the snip. When Buster arrived 18 months later I was hesitant for a little while...but in the end I was very happy for DH to go ahead with it. It still took at least a year thanks to my husband being a procrastinator, losing referrals and needing to organise his shifts as his was done under a general. If we were younger (DH is over 40) it's possible we would have waited but we are very happy with our decision and I'm sure the result would be the same.
My DH has just had a vasectomy and DD 2 is 6 mo. We decided that given our history of m/c and infertility issues that We/I couldn't go through what we have been through to try for another baby and also our ages, we more my DH who is 42.
The private practice where my DH had the procedure had a pre op appt with him to discuss it all and confirm this is what we definitely wanted. You could always have the pre op chat and go from there. GL
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