oh hun, since when is it about getting her to agree to the minor details? You should outline how many people, starting time, what food SHE is going to provide (with your help of course), the fact that NO alcohol with be allowed and drunken kids that turn up with be sent away or their parents called.
She can fill in what goes on inside those parameters - regardless of how well she has done at school. (I painted a wall last week - doesn't mean there is a brass band coming down the street to celebrate )
Of course she is going to whine about it (that's her job). Too bad, you have to be the boring parentals and set the rules because that's your job.
sorry darl, im a rush so havent read the whole thread.... no matter what you decide id be notifying the police that there is a party and it may get bigger thank you're happy with
Yep, Lulu that's pretty much our plan of attack. Especially the ground rules about drugs and alcohol. Fortunately her best friend (a platonic male who went up to her school for the formal) has also warned her about having parties. He held one a few months ago which went totally pear shaped despite parameters. He had an older brother who died of a drug overdose so this kid is seriously against recreational drug taking. His parents also said that if the kids wanted to drink and smoke etc they could leave the house... which they all ended up doing... to the park across the road. And what with them being able to sms each other soon friends of friends joined in and it was getting dark and it got out of control. One girl drank too much and was suspected of experimenting with drugs so an ambo had to be called. The poor host was a wreck and in tears to DD on the phone the following day. Poor kid but I'm glad he is my DDs best friend!
So yes, no popularity contest with this mumma... it's my house... and I make the rules. Just need a sanity check... thanks for reading!
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