IMO 14-15 is defintely too young to be drinking so I absolutely think that you've done te right thing. Although I've never had to experience this and I may change my mind in future but I might be a little more lenient if she were 16-17. I would definitely set limits though and would definitely call and have her call if I/she thought things were getting out of hand at the party and needed to be picked up. Not saying you should do that at all in the future just what I would do. I would however sit down and ask why she felt it necessary to drink and did she think that it would make her 'cool'.

Ben and I haven't discussed this as it's quite a far off problem for us. I'm hoping it won't be much of an issue seeing as neither of us drink however I know how hard peer pressure works. We will defintely sit down with our children (and you might want to do this too) and discuss the dangers of alcohol, the dangers of binge drinking, and how important it is to be a responsible drinker. So many things can go wrong and the scary thing is at these parties not are there drunk girls but a lot of the time drunk boys too and some drunk boys are not nice and lose all sense of control.

I think education is highly important, and even though you have said no to her maybe discuss them anyway in case she does go out and sneak around behind your back, because atleast then she is well informed and might think about those things whilst she's doing it. Oh and a counsellor might not be a bad idea, she might listen to someone who is impartial.

Good luck Tanya, oh all the joys we have to look forward too