Thanks Bec and Bath - I was feeling very alone here! And I can remember friends thinking me odd for never touching alcohol if I were the driver; actually PiL think it a bit odd still but even if I don't feel impaired by the alcohol it isn't worth it.

I do agree that alcohol shouldn't be seen as a prop for relaxation; I am going to have to stop DH announcing he "needs" a beer after a bad day now!

BTW, I would be far more strict with carbonated drinks. I've seen what coke does to toddlers and no way is DS having that even though it's legal.