i have the same busyness theory , try to involve her in othr stuff. It's my current strategy , that and encourage her to do things with othr people . So far so good, the bf seems to have agrophobia of some kind so is not keen on going places including our house. He was in my son's yr at school and he was witness to the bf's self harm incident at school. Needless to say he's not too happy about coming here when big brother is home.
My son was a very vrbally agressive kid at the same age and i can remember considering sending him to live with his dad until he grew up some, reality is he was much worse than his sister. HOwever... here's the hope !!! He 's now 19 , 2nd yr at uni with distinctions and credits, is turning into a very nice young man who hugs his mum nearly everyday voluntarily. He's becoming responsible and pleasant and seems to appreciate everything thats done for him.
So ... i know i've just gotta ride the wave with her... trouble is it can so easily feel like a tsunami and you're drowning. Thanks so much Lulu.. it's nice to have a friendly ear
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Enjoy the wilderness time... i wonder if they have such a thing up here.