Curfews?

[Bathsheba]

Before my 15yo DD went to boarding school (where they have a 9.45pm lights out curfew) she wasn't allowed out at all on a school night but was allowed to stay at a friends place until 10pm on Fridays and Saturdays... not to be wandering around... at a designated place. it's the wandering around that so many parents seem to allow that worries me... at any time.

[Fleur]

1am...woah

DD1 doesn't have a 'curfew' as such, we take it on a case by case basis...
Usually on a weeknight she has to be home by dark, so at the moment it's around 5:30 - 6:00.
Thursdays if she goes late night, it would be 9:30.

On a weekend it's much the same unless one of us is picking her up from somewhere, then it might be a bit later, but only as late as we can stay awake, lol.

Like Bath, I'm not a fan of them being out wandering around, I like to know where she is & what she's doing... I always have been like that but even more so now, (we have had some problems wiht her in the last 12 mths ) but it's a safety issue too, I hate the thought of her catching a bus at night with all those creeps out there.

ETA - the biggest problem I actually have is with what other parents allow - what are they going to be doing when they are elsewhere? and the 'but she caaaaan' argument gets realllly old.

[Rouge]

1 am is waaaaaaay too late!

Sheesh! I don't like the idea of a 14 yr old to be out and about on their own at all. But then maybe that's me. I feel sorry for my kids, I daresay I'm going to be very unpopular in a few years LOL!

[Fleur]

Lol Rouge, I think it comes with the 'job'... I say to DH if we are popular with our teenagers we must be doing something wrong

[diannescruffy]

ETA - the biggest problem I actually have is with what other parents allow - what are they going to be doing when they are elsewhere? and the 'but she caaaaan' argument gets realllly old.
That's the problem I have, when DS has a friend sleeping over they are not allowed out after dark but I do know of other parents who allow them to leave the house .

Regards,
Dianne

[jaspen]

As with Trillian I don't have a teenager yet but like pandora I came straight home after school or sport or music and when out with friends on weekends it was either at their house or movies or something - no just wandering.

On first reading of the thread I was thinking that my rules would be similar to Baths in all realty and expect that again like Rouge I don't expect to be too popular in years to come.

[willow5]

ETA - the biggest problem I actually have is with what other parents allow - what are they going to be doing when they are elsewhere? and the 'but she caaaaan' argument gets realllly old.
That's the problem I have, when DS has a friend sleeping over they are not allowed out after dark but I do know of other parents who allow them to leave the house .

Regards,
Dianne

IKWYM! I'm lucky in a way that I know DS's closest friend's parents and we're on the same wavelength, but there are a few friends we aren't close to and that's where things start to get a little frayed. And teenagers are great at making you feel like the worst person on earth!
I just try to go with my best judgement at the time for the given circumstances, and hope that the "fringe" friends don't become too regular