Just wondering what your teenager's curfew is. DS14 on a school night has to be home by 7.30 p.m, on the weekend we play it by ear as I always pick him up. DS has a female friend who is allowed to stay out until 1.00 a.m. this includes weekdays because she is home schooled, DS says she is lucky I was quite shocked at this.
I don't have a teenager as yet LOL, but I was one of those kids who didn't have a curfew either. I guess Mum didn't want to be like her Mum was and be strict about it so she was very lax. I hated it though. My friends wished their parents were like my mum, but I wished that mum was a bit more like their parents.
Holy Moly on the 1am for a 14 yr old!!
When DD was in yr 10 and 11 she had a 10pm curfew on weekdays and 12 on weekends.
In yr12 we relaxed the weekend one and now she is over 18 she doesn't have one.
I would be terrified of my DD being out at 1am at 14!!
I never really had a curfew, but didn't really go anywhere. If I did I stayed at a friends house & if we did anything we'd be picked up when it finished (movie, disco)
When DH & I got together I was 16 & mum wasn't too worried, as long as he looked after me, but I soon learnt that early mornings weren't so great with school the next day (so I left school )
Where I grew up there was a town curfew as far as I know. 10pm if under 16 I think. You would often see 10 year olds out later than this though!!
We didn't go anywhere on school nights unless it was as a family, or to sports training, or after yr 10, to the library to study. I certainly wasn't allowed just to be out and about wih my friends - and none of them were either.
Weekends were pretty full on with sport or family stuff. Sometimes we might go over to a friends place but never really 'went out' for the sake of it.
I think 1am is way too late. My kids don't have a regular curfew as such, it all depends on what they're doing and who they're doing it with. But school nights I think 7.30pm is very acceptable if it's a social thing, quite often mine would be at sports training though and we don't get home until after 9pm, which I hate.
Before my 15yo DD went to boarding school (where they have a 9.45pm lights out curfew) she wasn't allowed out at all on a school night but was allowed to stay at a friends place until 10pm on Fridays and Saturdays... not to be wandering around... at a designated place. it's the wandering around that so many parents seem to allow that worries me... at any time.
DD1 doesn't have a 'curfew' as such, we take it on a case by case basis...
Usually on a weeknight she has to be home by dark, so at the moment it's around 5:30 - 6:00.
Thursdays if she goes late night, it would be 9:30.
On a weekend it's much the same unless one of us is picking her up from somewhere, then it might be a bit later, but only as late as we can stay awake, lol.
Like Bath, I'm not a fan of them being out wandering around, I like to know where she is & what she's doing... I always have been like that but even more so now, (we have had some problems wiht her in the last 12 mths ) but it's a safety issue too, I hate the thought of her catching a bus at night with all those creeps out there.
ETA - the biggest problem I actually have is with what other parents allow - what are they going to be doing when they are elsewhere? and the 'but she caaaaan' argument gets realllly old.
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Curfews?
I was quite shocked at this.
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) but it's a safety issue too, I hate the thought of her catching a bus at night with all those creeps out there.
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