my daughter is 12 this april and in the last yr of primary and some things have come up already *sigh*

Dye her hair - maybe a rinse, never a permanent and she's not interested .. yet!
Shave her body - never, but i am currently looking to get her legs waxed before school starts back!
Get piercings anywhere - ears yes, nothing else under 16
Swear - well no, but as you say, outside the house i know she does i just hope she has the self respect to not make herself appear trashy with a vile mouth!
Drink - god no! not under 18!
Smoke - not a chance!
Go out of a night - nope, not without a parent. 16 will be the age where we will consider non-group outings at night for her ..