Yep, Maddy is tiny & some days she doesnt eat much except a couple piecesof fruit, her school lunch box is sometimes still full & will then say she's tired & will head off to bed early, I let her but the next morning she will be hungry & will have a big breakfast etc.
I then tell her she was probably so tired as she had given her body any fuel to work, they also did healthy eating plans at school last year & talked about foods etc..
I let her choose once a week what she'd like to cook with me for dinner, lately she has written a shopping list for me & I have grabbed her ingredients she thenm tells us to rest etc & she has peeled & cut carrots, chopped tomatoes, capsicum, cucumber, lettuce, spring onion & mushrooms & thrown it altogether & made a Maddy Salad... She will eat this, yet if I had previously offered her a salad she'd say she doesnt like it all mixed in, but because it's hers & hse made it herself she will eat it (It's actually good for all of us!)
She helps me make homemade pizza & it's the only pizza she will eat, she helps with lasagne & although she says she hates melted stretchy cheese she eats it coz she has helped....
I now get her to make her own school lunch every morning & it's generally all gone!

I think giving her the chance to help, maybe write a weekly menu plan with her, but I agree DO NOT MAKE IT ABOUT HER FOOD!!!


Maybe tell her your finding it difficult to think of some yummy dinner meals & if she could give you a help with it, dont tell her coz she doesnt eat you wnat her to make a menu of stuff she will eat...

I agree that the rewarding with trearts causes food issues!!


Dont stress either, I know my sister would be in tears over her son & lack of eating to the point he was in the dark eating tinned spag with mashed veggies in it... She & he were hysterical but if he'd have a spooon ful he'd be rewarded.... In the end a Dr told her to lighten up, he'd not starve himself & rather than offering food, taking it away sending him to his room & being in knots, just say OK your done, I'm putting it away now, removing it & saying Ok you can leave the table (which meant he wasnt joining in with her, Dh & DD's evening chat & meal) meant he felt left out & after a few days of helping Mum in the kitchen etc, he eats lots of different things now...

My cousins son only eats toast with butter (not marg) & bread with butter..... He is still fine!?