DSD not using sanitary protection

[saslia]

I am in need of a bit of help. DSD is having her second period and both this time and last time she has mostly not worn the pads or tampons I have bought for her. She just chucks the very bloody clothes in the dirty washing basket.

She also doesn't wear them at her mother's house either(she lives with us). Her mother and I have both spoken to her (separately) about how important it is.

I have bought her about 6 different types to try and find which one she likes. I also got her mini tampons and 10 pairs of dark underwear.

How can I make her wear them?

DH has suggested that we get her do wash everything herself, but I am more concerned that she will bleed through her clothes at school and others will see. She also doesn't seem to grasp that it is a hygeine issue.

HELP!!!!

[meow]

Has she said why she doesn't want to wear them? I didn't use tampons for years cause I was too scared to put them in... but super thin pads were always fine.

[saslia]

Has she said why she doesn't want to wear them? I didn't use tampons for years cause I was too scared to put them in... but super thin pads were always fine.

She just doesn't like wearing any of them.

She has super thin ones, normal ones, with wings, without wings.......I can understand the not wanting to use tampons

[~Raven~]

Yikes that's an interesting one! I could only imagine the kind of embarrassment I would have if I leaked period blood on my clothes. The girls I went to school with would have found it hysterical to point it out! Perhaps she doesn't feel that peer thing as yet.

Would making her clean her own clothes help. Wonder if standing her at the laundry trough with her knickers and a bar of soap and scrubbing brush would help persuade her.

Another thing could be loss of privileges but that seems a bit harsh.

[Phteven]

Maybe if the issue is discomfort you could see if she likes the cloth pads but it's a lot of money wasted if she doesn't use them.
Is there anyone else you can enlist? A family friend or funky aunt?

[Kitt3n]

Poor thing, she is the same age as i was! Is she even in high school yet?

I was in year six and it totally freaked me out, i couldn't tell anyone!

dach's idea of a funky aunt is good - if this isnt an option, do you know of any teachers at her school who could say something? Or an older cousin, someone under 25??!!

[Tanya]

Ewww!!

I would tell her she HAS to wear them!! If she doesn't she can lose priviages!! I think that is what I would do if it were my DD.

Also sounds like she needs to learn a little more self worth... dunno

[Kitt3n]

Saslia, may i ask how old she is?

Its very stranget hat she wouldnt want to use them, has she tried at all?

Sooner or later she will have a heavier period and it will all leak through on her school clothes poor thing.....

[saslia]

Saslia, may i ask how old she is?

Its very stranget hat she wouldnt want to use them, has she tried at all?

Sooner or later she will have a heavier period and it will all leak through on her school clothes poor thing.....

She is 12 1/2 (13 in August)

She wears them sometimes but not at others.

They already are heavy enough and going through her underwear and clothes, That is one of my big worries.

[Toomanytoomany]

I'd be tempted to encourage her into some counselling. Many girls grieve when they reach menarche, and do not deal at all well with their periods. (Sticks hand up.) There may be a rebellious denial in what she's doing. Lack of personal hygiene in that age bracket when it is to that extent can also be indicative of greater mental health issues.

I think in the meantime expecting her to do her own washing is perfectly reasonable and doesn't have to be done in a punitive way. Just, "It's really unpleasant for me to be cleaning up after you like that, so you'll have to wash your own clothes when you've got your period, I'm afraid."