I don't have teenage kids so can't offer advice from that perspective but do want to offer you big hugs. I know that wont necessarily help that much but others like me are thinking of you at the moment and I hope it does help to know you are with us in thought.
My brother ran away from home at 14. Our family was going through a major upheaval and major changes (the last recession!!) and in hindsight I would say it was because it was all too much for him to deal with. He lived on the streets for a bit but came home eventually. It was a very stressful time for us all (I am 18 months younger than him so I only remember it from a teenager's perspective) but I do remember being incredibly impressed by the way my mum and dad dealt with it. I think they let him be in a way. Let him know that they wanted him back, loved him and would be there when he was ready but they didn't push it. I think mum thought, I need to keep it together for the 3 other kids who need me. Anyway, he came home and grew to be a beautiful man (who has no memory of the trauma he put us all through )
Re: the cops, I think Lulu's advice is excellent as a plan of action. Plus, I have to wonder about the bottom of the pile thing. I have found on a number of occasions when I have wanted to place a police report that they say something to put me off. I usually stand my ground and get that report filed as is my right. It can't hurt. I hope that someone with Police experience can help with that one, but I would file a report if it was me.
Big for you, your family and your son. And, although I haven't read your thread about your girl, big big
Oh Tracey, you guys are having a horrible time.
I'm hoping he just needs a bit of time to come to terms with the things that have happened lately & will come home to you soon.
I'm sorry I have no advice. I hope he comes home before he gets into any trouble.
Tracey, Im glad you came in & posted about this. I hope you get some help.
Lulu, Tracey was having some issues before Milana passed away. I thought the same thing when she told me about the troubles she is having with her DS.
I agree though that it must be hard for him to process.
Tracey, I sure hope he can come home & talk with you guys soon. Take it easy & I am here if you need to talk.
Does your area have a Community Police type program? I know in some areas they do. The police act like mentors to young kids sliding off the rails a bit, sometimes they have a place to hang out etc, or the police teach them to box or something.
You (or someone close if its a bit too much atm) need to call the council, his school etc and find out what teen programs are in the area and get them involved asap. My DD was very affected by my m/c and she was referred to school councellor, who then referred onto a local program (might have been related to anglicare, I can't think) that she stayed in contact with for years. They ran leadership and wilderness camps (NOT brat camp!) on school holidays, it was very good.
GL today, maybe if he calls arrange to meet him at Maccas for a burger, they usually can't resist....
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for you, your family and your son. And, although I haven't read your thread about your girl, big big
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