What a terrible situation.

I don't have teenage kids so can't offer advice from that perspective but do want to offer you big hugs. I know that wont necessarily help that much but others like me are thinking of you at the moment and I hope it does help to know you are with us in thought.

My brother ran away from home at 14. Our family was going through a major upheaval and major changes (the last recession!!) and in hindsight I would say it was because it was all too much for him to deal with. He lived on the streets for a bit but came home eventually. It was a very stressful time for us all (I am 18 months younger than him so I only remember it from a teenager's perspective) but I do remember being incredibly impressed by the way my mum and dad dealt with it. I think they let him be in a way. Let him know that they wanted him back, loved him and would be there when he was ready but they didn't push it. I think mum thought, I need to keep it together for the 3 other kids who need me. Anyway, he came home and grew to be a beautiful man (who has no memory of the trauma he put us all through )

Re: the cops, I think Lulu's advice is excellent as a plan of action. Plus, I have to wonder about the bottom of the pile thing. I have found on a number of occasions when I have wanted to place a police report that they say something to put me off. I usually stand my ground and get that report filed as is my right. It can't hurt. I hope that someone with Police experience can help with that one, but I would file a report if it was me.

Big for you, your family and your son. And, although I haven't read your thread about your girl, big big