How do you stay out of it?

[misty]

Teenage girls.... must admit I am a bit anxious about when my DD is one...
Sounds like you are handling things well. Unfortunately as parents, all you can do is guide and hope that they make the right decision and be there ready to pick up the peices when they make the wrong one. It sounds like your DD is quite insightful and that you two have a good relationship, I am sure she will get through her teenage years relatively well.

[sloane]

girls can be so nasty to each other. i was going to say teenage girls, but unfortunately for some it still seems to continue well into adulthood

but it sounds like you've given your DD the tools she needs to help get her through & to work things out. hopefully things have settled down a bit.