i guess with just the money side of things in the long run ur his mum u knwo wat he is like so u will know when he is ready. one of my friends got a big payout because apparently her grandfather raped her but it was all bull that her mum made up cause her mum wanted money. she got her money at 18 and her mum expected to give her most of the money but because it was all legally in my friends name she spent all of it and her mother didnt get a cent. hehehe that prob hasnt got much to do with ur situation but just saying even some parents cant handle money. so when u think he is ready and i guess int eh long run he will thank u if u help him get a house rather then blow it on stupid crap