He he, I stood strong and continue to do so! And I'm winning
To be fair, I always knew it would be me that made the first move but she was so continually awful I felt I never had the chance. She actually cleaned her room up perfectly and started to wander in to play with the kids.
She went out on Saturday night so I drove her (the 'giving in' part!) and we had a nice chat on the way. I ended up with food poisoning (I think) later that night and when she came home she fussed over me nicely, made sure I was comfortable and helped distract the kids outta my hair the next day.
She got a near perfect score on one of her SAC's, and 80% on her biology exams and 75% for maths and I'm proud of her (and then told her I expect 85 and 80% respectively on her next exams )
Its nice having her back on a lazy Sunday too, we all stay in our jimjams, watch trashy telly and play Wii together. It wasn't as fun without her and I think she missed us too
I'm only such a hardass on the dealbreakers, yanno? Safety, respect, self-respect , integrity, responsibility and pride in your work. End of story, these are my expectations.
Like I told DD - when she was little and her behaviour was bad, it would reflect on ME. Now she is older and able to make her own decisions, it will reflect on HER.....
I've been reading this thread with interest...I'm a looong way away from teenagerdom yet but I was a horrible teenage girl.
Lulu, I think you are doing fantastically. The only thing I would contribute is that you need to be careful to allow her to "save face". Apologising/agreeing that you were right will cost her a great deal and if you do what my Mum did, which was to make it clear she felt that she had "won" and I had capitulated, will just make things worse. There was always that triumphant glint in her eye.
It sounds like such a little thing, but I had some dreadful standoffs with my Mum just because I didn't want to give her the satisfaction of winning, y'know?
She has always been that way. You just have to give her a chance to let herself off the hook.
I hate the stress of the whole thing, I don't care about winning it's too fricken tiring being right all the time!
sounds like shes actually behaving herself lu...hopefully it lasts.
shel realise in time you are only caring for her and want the best for her.
tell her well done from me on her SAC results...good on her.
love rach xxx
p.s your doing a fantastic job xxx
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