He he, I stood strong and continue to do so! And I'm winning

To be fair, I always knew it would be me that made the first move but she was so continually awful I felt I never had the chance. She actually cleaned her room up perfectly and started to wander in to play with the kids.
She went out on Saturday night so I drove her (the 'giving in' part!) and we had a nice chat on the way. I ended up with food poisoning (I think) later that night and when she came home she fussed over me nicely, made sure I was comfortable and helped distract the kids outta my hair the next day.
She got a near perfect score on one of her SAC's, and 80% on her biology exams and 75% for maths and I'm proud of her (and then told her I expect 85 and 80% respectively on her next exams )

Its nice having her back on a lazy Sunday too, we all stay in our jimjams, watch trashy telly and play Wii together. It wasn't as fun without her and I think she missed us too

I'm only such a hardass on the dealbreakers, yanno? Safety, respect, self-respect , integrity, responsibility and pride in your work. End of story, these are my expectations.

Like I told DD - when she was little and her behaviour was bad, it would reflect on ME. Now she is older and able to make her own decisions, it will reflect on HER.....