I am not a teenage mum anymore, but I was...I was 16 when I fell pregnant with my daughter ... she is now 14.
What is it like? scary..but I think being a first time mum is a bit scary anyway.
How to decide what to do.. the first thing you have to do is do a test... even the home tests you can get at the supermarket are very accurate, (i used one for this bub when I was 2 days late & it showed up, I didn't think it would). So that is the first thing, as jennjorja said, you don't want to be stressing about nothing. If its positive you need to see a doctor and get an estimate of your dates, then you can make decisions about what next.
As for symptoms, I didn't get any until I found out then all of a suddedn the morning sickness hit... everyone is different... tiredness, nausea, needing to go to the toilet lots are the most common early symptoms... you might have no symptoms at all other than a late period.
My boyfriend was ok about it, just as shocked as I was and although he was young too I think he tried to do as best as he could then. We stayed together another couple of years, not together anymore but that's life & that happens to adults too
The best thing you can do is find someone to talk to, if not a family member maybe a friends mother, if not family or friends then a family planning clinic counsellor, they deal with these situations all the time and it is all confidential.
The best thing you can do is talk! You need to know you're not alone and talking helps you see things clearly.
Hi Ash
If you need a midwife to chat to feel free to contact me at any time. Everything that we talk about will remain between us.
also as the others have said you need to find out if you are pregnant. You can miss a period for quite a number of reasons. get yourself a home pregnancy test or take a trip to the doctors.
Hey, i'm 19, i'm pregnant with my first. Honestly, i'm freaking out.
My bf and i joked one day about having a baby, and sorta started trying. If we got pregnant, awesome! If not, then oh well.
Eight months later, i saw the two little lines show up and suddenly, "HOLY SH*T!!! What the hell have we done!!!!"
After a couple of pretty freaked out hours i'd calmed down and gotten used to it.
Aborting was never really an option for me, I had done a highschool debate on abortion and i had to research it, and i don't even think i could go through with doing it.
Plus i figured i'm old enough and DP and i are stable enough to be able to do this together. And plus plus, I was going to have a baby!! Yay! Lol.
I'd pretty much figured out i was pregnant before i took the test. Symptoms were, EXTREME pms like symptoms, i would go from screaming at DP cause he didn't come and give me a kiss AS SOON as he got home, to crying as though my whole world had ended because i missed hungry jacks brekkie by ten mins.
Also was getting all the symptoms like the ones you get before that time of the month, i.e. bloating, sore boobs (!!!), cramps, etc etc.
Smells would get to me like you wouldn't believe, anything that was a little funky smelling sent me reeling towards the bathroom.
My partner is 23 and already has a little girl (3 and a half) from a previous relationship, so he was pretty relaxed about the whole thing. He was 19 when his daughter was born to his then 16yr old gf. So he'd done the whole scenario before and was just happy.
Honestly, it really kinda depends on your age and your own situation. Just remember, this isn't the end of the world. Your not alone, and you CAN do this.
Being a parent is damn hard (so everyone tells me, lol), being pregnant is sometimes awesome, and sometimes you just want the kid out......NOW!!!!! (like how i'm feeling at the moment).
One thing is so true though, (for me at least) when you feel a bit of your baby brushing the inside of your skin and a little lump comes up on your tummy, and you press it, and then it presses back, the outside world doesn't exist, and even though you haven't met them yet, you already love them more than you could ever love anything or anyone else. (oh sshhh everyone, Peanut and I had a moment today)
If you are pregnant, get some support around you, your mum will automatically become your new best friend, you guys will be closer than ever.
Hopefully your bf will be into it if you are and if you decide to keep it.
If he's not, then it's completely up to you what you do.
Take a test, see what happens.
If you'd like to talk sometime, private message me or something.
I'm Ash too , I am 21 so 19 when I fell pregnant.... by the sounds of it you are much younger, but...
LOVEY... you will be FINE!!! I promise you.
We are made to be mothers. It is not age that makes us mothers, it is actions, and if you are 13, 17, 25, or 40 I am sure you will be a wonderful mum. You are here, seeking help for what step to take next that is a huge start chickie... you're showing you are ready.
hey gals, thanx so much for your support, you's really made my day
by the way, i'm 15 (16 in a month). i m worried about my body, its doing really strange things, plz someone help..
(be prepared dis might be 2 much info) i just got out of the bath and all of a sudden some pee just came out, like i had no control over my body then i ws like wat the...ok then, then i looked down and a trickle of red red blood came out.... then when that stopped a bit more came out which was more watered down...i dnt understand wts goin on wit my body, is this bad, is it gd, is this a symptom...smeone plz help..i'm gtin worried nd confused
Hi hun.
Have you been weeing more than normal? Sore or tingly boobs? Feeling sick? Tired? Any of those. They are all symptoms of pregnancy. Although you may get none of these.
I fell pg with my first at 17. Its a bit daunting, but my boyf & I had been together a while & I knew he wasn't going anywhere. We are still together now & married. Mum was my biggest challenge.
I'm not sure whats going on right now. Do you have any idea how many weeks you might be? Maybe you could go see your gp in the morning. I'm pretty sure you could go to the emergency dept at your hospital too if you're worried.
I know alot of young mums. Even younger than you. Some made mistakes, others are great mums. I always thought being young made me a better mum because I wanted to prove that I wasn't just 'one of those'. They stereo type you pretty badly. People just assume your single & useless & that you know nothing. Its not fun, but do your research, know what your getting yourself into & you'll be fine.
(be prepared dis might be 2 much info) i just got out of the bath and all of a sudden some pee just came out, like i had no control over my body then i ws like wat the...ok then, then i looked down and a trickle of red red blood came out.... then when that stopped a bit more came out which was more watered down...i dnt understand wts goin on wit my body, is this bad, is it gd, is this a symptom...smeone plz help..i'm gtin worried nd confused
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I'm sorry hun but I think you need to be seen by a doctor either at emergency or your gp. It sounds like you might have miscarried. Maybe you haven't but I would get checked to make sure. Tell them everything and see what they say. They will do a pg test and then maybe an ultrasound to see what is going on.
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, I am 21 so 19 when I fell pregnant.... by the sounds of it you are much younger, but...
aww thanx gals
then when that stopped a bit more came out which was more watered down...i dnt understand wts goin on wit my body, is this bad, is it gd, is this a symptom...smeone plz help..i'm gtin worried nd confused 
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